Psychologists and marriage counsellors have found that individuals have affairs when _______ are not met
Needs
eg.
"It was a long day at work"
"I was out with friends"
"I was alone"
"Sorry I can't make it" (with no explanation)
Making excuses
"My closet reminds me of him"
Clothes
"They were born in 1990"
Age
"We never talk anymore"
No communication
Men are more likely to have an extramarital relationship that is primarily ______
Sexual
You try and type in their phone password but it won't unlock because...
Password changed
Delete/ get rid of pictures
"They work at a bank for a living"
Job/ Income
Person 1 "Where were you so late?"
Person 2 "I was at Rob's place"
Person 1 "But Rob was here last night"
Person 2 "..."
Lying
Other than sexual needs why might someone cheat?
Emotional support
"Who is Jessica? Why is she _______ you this late on your phone?"
Texting
"He gave me this for my birthday"
Gifts- teddy bears, chocolate, cards
"Hi I'm Alex, what's your ____"
Name
"Why are you spending all our money?You need to manage it better!"
Spending/finances
If the relationship is unsatisfying someone may lose _____ in their partner
Lost interest in partner
***A married couple Bertha and John are talking***
Bertha: "Today is the 26th!"
John: "Okay... So what?"
Bertha: "I can't believe you would forget!"
Forget important dates/ anniversaries
"She knew my favorite ______ were roses"
Flowers
***At the end of a first date***
"Oh, I have to leave at 8, I have to put my child to bed"
Does he have kids
"Why do you keep looking at them?"
"Julia's jokes were that funny? You don't laugh at my jokes like that"
Jealousy
Early man was motivated to have multiple sexual partners to enhance his chance of having _______
Offspring
"Woah why did I catch you in bed with Tom?!?!"
Intimacy
"He gave me this promise ring"
"He gave me this bracelet when we first met"
"She gave me this necklace on our anniversary"
Jewelry
"How many people have you been with before me?"
Past relationships
"Are you sure you love me?"
"Do you ACTUALLY think I'm pretty?"
"I don't understand why anyone would like me"
Low Self-confidence