Reactions
Is it OK to take space from a situation that is making you angry but going to your room or taking a walk?
Yes! Taking space from a situation that is making you frustrated or angry is a great way to keep yourself from having an unexpected reaction.
You came home from camp to find your sister playing with your brand new lego set without asking you first: Small, Medium or Big problem?
Small. Although this is frustrating, she is not hurting anything by playing with your legos. We can ask her to please ask you first next time.
Your parents won't let you play on the iPad because you hadn't finished your school work. You scream, stomp and tip a chair over. What Zone are you in?
Red.
My Mom told me it was time for an online google meet with my teacher so I decided to throw the pencils that were on the table on the ground and yell at her to "leave me alone!" Did I handle this well? What could I have done instead?
No, getting this upset in response to a small problem does not help the situation.
Small problem, we can simply close out of the tabs we don't need, we don't need to get frustrated or upset.
Your at the beach and you have spent 30 minutes creating a perfect sand castle. Your sister comes over and pours water all over it, ruining it. You take a deep breath, tell her you didn't like that, but realize that making the sand castle was the best part so you start a new one. What zone are you in?
Green.
Does having a HUGE reaction to a SMALL problem typically solve the problem and make the situation better?
No, typically having a huge reaction to a small problem makes the situation worse and does not solve the problem. It usually ends with you getting into trouble.
Your Mom makes broccoli for dinner and you hate broccoli.
Small problem. We aren't going to love everything our parents make, but we can try it and maybe eventually we will learn to like the broccoli.
You wanted ice cream for dessert but you don't have any at our house. You stomp your feet and cross your arms at the dinner table and look mad. You don't talk to anyone for 10 minutes. What zone are you in?
Yellow.