Hickok Center
You are sitting in the lounge and over hear another participant making a joke that you don't think is funny. You think the joke is offensive. What do you do?
1. Approach the participant and pull them aside. Politely explain to them that you did not think the joke was appropriate, and explain why it upset you. Ask them to please not say that joke anymore.
2. Let a mentor know that you are upset about the joke. The mentor may be able to help you approach the other participant if you are unsure of what to say.
You are at Target shopping with your friends. You want to buy a jar of tomato sauce to make with pasta at dinner time, and you grab it from the shelf. You go to put the jar of sauce in your basket, but instead you drop it on the floor and the glass breaks. What should you do?
1. Stay calm. Do not try to pick up the glass by yourself. You should find an employee in the store and ask for help with cleaning up the sauce.
2. Find a mentor from Hickok. You can ask the mentor to help you find a store employee who will be able to help clean up the sauce.
You are at home on a Saturday afternoon. Your family member tells you that they will take you to the store, and they will pick you up at 1:00 P.M. You look at the clock and notice that it is 1:30, but they are still not there. You are very frustrated.
1. Stay calm and take a few deep breaths. Call your family member to first make sure that everything is okay. Then you can ask them how close they are.
2. Stay calm and take a few deep breaths. Instead of waiting by the door, do something to keep your mind occupied while you are waiting for the family member to arrive.
You are outside playing basketball with your friends, and you are playing Around The World with your friends. You are not playing very well, and you are getting frustrated that your friend is making all of their shots.
1. Express to your friend that you are getting frustrated that you are not playing well. Ask your friend if they can give you some tips on how to shoot the basketball better.
2. Don't get down on yourself. It's okay to not be good at every single thing that you try to do. Remind yourself that you are trying your best, and remember to just have fun with the activity.
You are participating in Mary and Autumn's mental health group. It is the middle of the session, and you notice another group member get up and leave the group.
1. The group member who left the group could have raised their hand and said, "thank you for running this group, but I would like to leave the group session now."
2. If it upsets you, you can raise your hand during the group and express why it makes you upset. This is helpful because the group leader can work through those feelings with you.
You are at Five Below and have found a lot of items that you want to buy. You have everything in your cart, and you go up to the register to pay for the items. The cashier is scanning all of your items, and you realize that you do not have enough money for all of the items.
1. Do not get frustrated. It is okay that you do not have enough money. You can ask the cashier if you can take a moment to decide which items you do not want to purchase.
2. Politely ask the cashier to cancel your order. You can ask the cashier to help you place all of your items back into your cart. You can then step away from the register with your cart, and take a few minutes to decide which items you want to keep.
You are at home on a Saturday afternoon. You had plans with your family member to go out to dinner at 5:00 P.M. You look at the clock and notice that it is 4:30. You are all ready to go, but you get a phone call from your family member saying that they have to cancel the dinner plans. You are very upset because you were excited to go out for dinner.
You are at home hanging out with some of your friends. Your friends want to drink alcohol, but you have been sober for years now and you do not want to drink. Your friends keep asking you to drink with them.
2. If you are uncomfortable with the situation, it is okay to remove yourself from that situation. Instead of staying with your friends, you can call a family member or a transportation service to pick you up and bring you home.
You are in the kitchen at Hickok Center having your morning coffee. There is a participant who keeps interrupting you while you are talking to another participant. You are getting annoyed because you think it's rude and you are trying to have a conversation with someone else.
1. You can politely ask the participant who is interrupting to please wait until you are finished with your conversation before they interject.
2. If you have something mean to say, keep that comment to yourself. You do not want to say mean things to others, even if you are feeling upset. If you feel like you are going to say something mean, it is helpful to walk away.
You arrive at Hickok center, and you find out that some of the participants are going on an outing to your favorite store. You ask Taylor if you can go, but there is not enough room in the van for an extra person. You are very angry.
1. Find a quiet room at Hickok center where you can go. Take a few deep breaths. There will be more opportunities for you to go on another outings.
2. Do not raise your voice to a mentor or use inappropriate language towards them. Instead, you can express your frustration and ask the mentor for a calendar, so that you can sign up for future outings ahead of time.
You are home on the weekend at your parents' house. It is late at night, and you want to go outside for a walk. Your parent tells you that you are not allowed to go outside because it is getting dark out.
1. Sit down with your parent and ask them to explain why they will not let you go outside. Chances are, they are not letting you go outside at night because it is unsafe.
2. Do not raise your voice at your parent. Find something else fun inside of the house to do instead of going outside. Ask your parent if you can go outside the next day during the afternoon when it is light outside.
You are hanging out with your friends at home. You are playing a card game and you think that your friend is cheating. You get really angry and start arguing with your friend and accuse them of cheating.
1. Calmly ask your friend if they know how to play the game. Do not accuse them of cheating, because they may just not know the rules of the game.
2. Ask your friend if/why they are cheating. If they admit to cheating, it is okay to tell them that you will not want to play with them anymore if they are going to play unfairly.