Thinking Errors
Believing you know what someone else is thinking or why they are doing something, without having enough information.
People are looking at me. The probably think my clothes are ugly.
What is mind reading?
I should always be happy. I should never be sad.
What is I can be happy and sad at times? It's okay to have feelings.
Mike and Sally are talking about a tennis match they played in.
You say, That sounds like it was a tough match.
What is a connected comment?
Having a negative belief about yourself and thinking it applies to everything you do.
I'm so dumb. Everything I say is stupid.
What is negative labeling?
Jake hasn't spoken to me this week. He must be mad at me.
What is Jake might be busy? I could ask him if he needs help with anything.
You need to be somewhere soon but you're still talking with Max.
You say, Hey Max. I need to get to class. Let's talk later?
What is ending a conversation?
You pay more attention to bad things and ignore when something good happens.
You get one answer wrong on along test, and all you can think about is the mistake.
What is ignoring the good?
Emma pushed me during tag on recess. She's mean.
You John and Chris talking by the tree at recess. You want to join their conversation.
What is waiting for a break in the conversation to join?
Believing that if you feel something, it must be true.
I feel like a bad friend, I must be a bad friend.
What is feelings as facts?
Carl didn't invite me to his party. I bet he thinks I'm weird.
What is maybe Carl couldn't invite a lot of people? I'll wish him a happy birthday.
You're walking down the school hallway and see Tyler and Summer. You say, Hi Tyler and Summer. How was math class?
What is a greeting?
Believing things have to be a certain way.
People should always be nice to me.
What is a 'should" statement?
Alice is sad today. I probably did something to upset her.
What is I didn't do anything purposeful to upset her? I talk to her to see if she's ok.
You and Mike are talking. He brings up his favorite hobby, building model cars. You aren't looking at him and making short uninterested comments.
What is a conversation stopper?