Relationships
This is usually rooted in childhood. Often, a child grows up in a home where their emotions are ignored or punished. This emotional neglect can give the child low self-esteem and shame. Example: Putting all of your energy into other people
Codependency
See your partner flirt with someone else, you confront them and they tell you that you’re crazy “I didn’t do that. You didn’t see anything.”
gaslighting
misattribution of a persons undesired thoughts, feelings, or impulses onto another person who does not have those thoughts feelings or impulses.
Projection
What are the stages of change?
pre-contemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, maintenance
Five types of boundaries
emotional, material, time/energy, physical, and mental
Someone telling you if you don’t do _________ I am going to break up with you or stop talking to you.”
Threatning
A man redirects his anger towards his boss to his wife. What defense is this
Displacement
list at least 5 categories of self care
physical, emotional, spiritual, financial, social, personal, work
Group you attend to help with codependency
CoDa
Two people get into an argument and they stop talking and ignore each other on purpose for long periods of time.
silent treatment/stonewalling
Channeling unacceptable impulses, thoughts, and emotions onto more acceptable ones. Someone that likes fighting who enrolls in boxing classes.
Sublimation
When you reject, suppress or ignore part of yourself in real-time. In other words, you have a need or desire you want to meet, and (often on the spot) you make the decision not to meet it for yourself. For example: not trusting your instincts
self abandonment
Seeing it for what you want it to be, instead of what it is –this is called
Painting red flags green
Using your body or sexual behavior to get your way
sexualization
When you are fully into recovery, making changes, putting in the work, and you refuse to leave your bed and engage in everyday activates.
Regression
The overgeneralization of a happy, optimistic state that results in denial, minimization, and invalidation of the authentic human emotional experience. Example: Everything Is going to work out, there’s no chance this can go wrong”
toxic positivity
Number one trait that people with codependency have
Perfectionism
Only giving half truths, leaving specific information out on purpose, and lying by omission
Withholding
Involves a person using reason and logic to avoid uncomfortable or anxiety-provoking emotions. Being in your mind and thinking your way out of an emotional situation.
Intellectualization
The process of determining what behavior you will accept from others and what you will not.
Boundaries