Boundaries
Why are boundaries created?
Boundaries are created to set limits on what you will and won't accept.
I always get my way, even if I need to step on people to get it. What style of communication do I use?
Aggressive
H.A.L.T
Hungry
Angry
Lonely
Tired
You see things in black and white categories If a situation falls short of perfect, you see it as a total failure.
All-or-nothing thinking
I have keys but no locks.
I have a space but no room.
You can enter, but you can’t go outside.
What am I?
A keyboard
How many overdoses in Colorado in 2020?
1,333 in Colorado 81,000 in 2020 19,000 more deaths (27%
What is a boundary that everyone knows not to cross?
Trick question! Boundaries need to be embodied, upheld, stated, and clearly defined. Although we would love people to respect us, their are people out their that do not uphold common sense boundaries and violate them.
I tell people how I feel in an honest, direct and confident way. I think of problems as something to solve and something I can learn from.
Assertive
Name the stage: Individuals may start to romanticize and fantasize about alcohol or drug abuse. They might simply think about the “positive” effects of substance use (euphoria, etc.) But, the unhealthy and harmful results of substance abuse may not come up in their minds.
Mental relapse
You see a single negative event as a neverending pattern of defeat by using words such as ‘always’ or “never” when you think about it.
Overgeneralization
What ship has two mates but no captain?
A relationship
Approximately how many Americans are in recovery from addiction to substances?
What is 23 Million.
What are ways to cross boundaries?
•Verbal Abuse (insulting, name calling, etc.)
•Physical Abuse (Pushing, shoving, hitting, kicking, etc.)
•Controlling Behavior (Keeping someone isolated, wanting to know where they are at all times)
•Threats (causing fear to make someone comply)
•Blame or Shame (Making excuses for their behavior or blaming yourself)
You keep quiet, don't say what you feel, need, or want. put yourself down frequently. What type of communication style do you have.
Passive
What are the 3 stages of relapse and give an explanation for each one.
Emotional Relapse
Mental Relapse
Physical Relapse
Cognitive distortions are reinforced through ________ thought, and can turn into false _______ about ourselves, others, and the world.
Cognitive distortions are reinforced through repetitive thought, and can turn into false beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world.
I can only live where there is light, but I die if the light shines on me.
What am I?
Shadow
How many people suffer from active substance use disorders.
What is the definition of personal boundaries?
Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits.
55% of communication is made up of ____?
Body language
What should be in your relapse prevention plan?
-A list of names of friends and family members included in your core support system
-Activities and lifestyle changes that you plan to implement in recovery
-Locations and meeting times of local meeting/support groups.
-Lists of places that should be avoided in recovery (bars, events with widespread drinking, places where other addicts will be, etc.).
_________ cognitive distortions by looking for shades of gray, alternative explanations, objective evidence, and positive interpretations to expand your thinking.
Reframe cognitive distortions by looking for shades of gray, alternative explanations, objective evidence, and positive interpretations to expand your thinking.
T.H.I.N.K
Before you speak, ask yourself the following:
How many people over age 18 had both a substance use disorder and a co-occurring mental illness.
9.2 million
What is the definition of emotional boundaries? What happens if you cannot create those emotional boundaries?
Separating your feelings from other people's feelings, know where their feelings end and where yours start.
If you cannot create emotional boundaries, the person may become codependent on you.
38% of communication is made up of ___?
tone of voice
What was going on before you used?
how were you feeling before you used?
how/where did you obtain and use drugs?
with whom did you use drugs?
what happened after you used?
Where were you when you began to think about using?
5 W's of a relapse autopsy or relapse timeline
You receive many positive comments about your presentation to a group of associates at work, but one of them says something mildly critical. You obsess about his reaction for days and ignore all the positive feedback.
Mental Filter
S.L.I.P
Sobriety Lost Its Priority
The Slip acronym refers to just that-a slip. Relapse is an expected and often inevitable part of working to live sober.
Percentage of adults experiencing mental illness?
19.00% of adults are experiencing a mental illness. Equivalent to over 47 million Americans. 4.55% are experiencing a severe mental illness.