Communication Styles
What communication style consist of:
· Soft spoken / quiet
· Allows others to take advantage
· Prioritizes needs of others
· Poor eye contact / looks down or away
· Does not express one’s own needs or wants
· Lack of confidence
Passive Communication
Imagine a friend is facing a situation that’s similar to one of your own anger triggers. What emotions do you think they might feel, other than anger? Give minimum of 4 responses
Any emotion besides anger (under iceberg)
“This kitchen is a mess. You’re such a slob.”
What is the name of this horseman?
Criticism
Solution + Gentle Startup (200)
Communication, Trust, Honesty, Equality, Respect, and Safety are characteristics of this kind of relationship
Healthy Relationships
the original angry bird with some seriously nuclear temper tantrums. Who gets stuck with all the bad luck? explosive temper is one of his most defining features, and he's been one mad mallard since 1934.
Donald Duck
What communication style consist of:
Easily frustrated
· Speaks in a loud or overbearing way
· Unwilling to compromise
· Use of criticism, humiliation, and domination
· Frequently interrupts or does not listen
· Disrespectful toward others
Aggressive Communication
This represents the idea that although anger is displayed outwardly, other emotions may be hidden beneath the surface
Anger Iceberg
Making excuses for behavior.
• Shifting blame to your partner.
“It isn't my fault I yelled. You were late, not me!”
Defensiveness
Solution - Take Responsibility (+200)
Lies, abuse, control, pressure, feeling unsafe, jealousy, and fighting are characteristic of this kind of relationship
Unhealthy Relationships
Taking a young woman's father, constantly frightening her, and keeping her in a creepy castle isn't exactly the way we'd start a relationship
The Beast
Scenario: A friend asks to borrow your car. This will be an inconvenience for you.
You respond: I need m car that day, but I'll have time to drop you off.
What type of communication style is this
Assertive Communication
BLANK is a stimulus—such as a person, place, situation, or thing—that contributes to an unwanted emotional or behavioral response.
Trigger
Showing anger, disgust, or hostility toward your partner.
Contempt
Solution- Share Fondness & Admiration Foster a healthy relationship by regularlyshowing each other respect and appreciation. (+200)
In the Cycle of violence, this phase is when both people are really excited about the relationship and everything feels great!
Honeymoon Phase
he's one of the cute and cuddly residents of the Hundred Acre Wood, but _______isn't exactly what we'd call the most welcoming member of the Pooh crew. He's a bit on the crotchety side and heaven help you if you step one foot in his beloved garden.
Rabbit
You partner left a mess in the kitchen, and you're too busy to clean it .
State an assertive way to communicate your thoughts about the mess.
Must include atleast 3 of the following characteristics
Listens without interruption
· Clearly states needs and wants
· Willing to compromise
· Stands up for own rights
· Confident tone / body language
· Good eye contact
BLANK are skills are actions we take--consciously or unconsciously--to deal with stress, problems, or uncomfortable emotions.
Coping Skills or Coping Strategies
Emotionally withdrawing, shutting down, or going silent during important discussions.
Stonewalling
Solution-Use Self-Soothing Use relaxation techniques to calm down and stay present with your partner. (+200)
A clear and sure Yes, without threat or pressure.
Consent
From sneaking around bedroom windows at night to emotionally manipulating. He mercilessly cut a guy's hand off and threw it to a crocodile right in front of him? Things get a bit dark once the pixie dust settles, don't they?
Peter Pan
When a person feels that they are being blamed—whether rightly or wrongly—BLANK is a way to take responsibility for one’s own feelings, while tactfully describing a problem.
I statement
Name 3 or more physical anger warning signs your anger is starting to grow
Must be associated with physical impact
BLANK are skills that replace each of the four
horsemen. These skills help resolve conflict and
encourage positive feelings between partner
Antidotes
This will allow you to understand your boundaries, triggers, likes, and dislikes
Self-Awareness
Self- Inventory
It's sort of implied that _____gets around and has serious commitment issues. He's certainly charming and has a way with the ladies. The good thing is that he's changed for the better with Lady.
Tramp