Jerry: "want a beer"
Michael: "Why don't we go for a walk instead?"
This type of refusal skill is called?
HALT
Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired.
Happy, sad, frustrated, excited, anxious, joyful, etc
Desire to stop drinking.
The requirement for membership
Guessing what someone else is thinking, when they may not be thinking that
Mindreading
HOW
Honest, Open-minded, and Willing
Joe: "who needs friends, and family. I am better off without them."
Isolating.
"Friend of Bill"
Less than secret code for AA meetings.
Overestimating the likelihood that an action will have a negative outcome.
Negative Predictions
Jerry: "I think I am going to the bar after work. It has been a very hard day and I need to chill."
Michael: "I heard the new supervisor is starting work next week."
Changing the subject
PAIN
Pause And Invite New
"I can't remember the last time I took a shower, or brush my teeth."
Neglecting appearance.
God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.
The Serenity Prayer.
Thinking of unpleasant events as catastrophes
Catastrophizing
Jerry: "take this joint!"
Michael: "not right now."
Avoid vague answers or excuses
KISS
Keep It Simple, Spirituality.
"I am just skipping this meeting and yoga this week. I will re-start next week"
Neglecting recovery practices.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Step 9
Remembering losing your place for a few seconds while giving a talk but not remembering the huge clap you got at the end.
Negatively biased recall of social encounters
Jerry: "Are you ready for a beer now?"
Michael: "Jerry, I don't drink anymore. Please stop."
Ask the person to stop offering your a drink or drugs
ABC
Acceptance, Belief, Change.
"I just need a little bit. Just enough to make me more talkative, and friendly, and comfortable around this people."
Romanticizing substance usage.
"YETS"
Illustrate the progress of alcoholism/addiction.
Believing the same rules that apply to others should not apply to you
Entitlement beliefs