Provocation
This statement is which part of Self-Instruction Reminders: "I'm getting better at this all the time" Before, During, OR After Provocation
AFTER
What is one way that other people can help you when you are angry?
[_____]
These are emotions that happens with or before anger
fear, depression, shame, anxiety
Give an example of a time when you managed your anger
[________]
you decide to ignore someone that was trying to upset you
consequence
This statement is which part of Self-Instruction Reminders: "I can work out a plan to handle this" Before, During, OR After Provocation
BEFORE
What are some negative outcomes for not managing anger in a healthy way?
Various examples: hurting loved ones, violence, losing someone you care about, losing your freedom
T/F: disagreeing with someone's idea attacks them as a person
FALSE - someone is just disagreeing with your idea and it is not a judgement against you as a person
Give an example of how anger can motivate you
Ex: drive you to change, motivate you to be kinder, help you realize ___
You notice that your muscles are tense, your heart rate is high, and you hit the steering wheel.
behavior
When reflecting on the provocation that is unresolved, this is one thing I can do?
Take a deep breath
Use relaxation or don't let it bother me
When someone does not treat us right we become angry. This mean anger can help us know when other people do not respect our ______.
Multiple: boundaries, personal needs, feelings, thoughts
T/F: when people direct comments at me taking it personally is an important step to understanding
Don't take things personally! People can lash out, but their behavior is a reflection of them & the belief that their opinion is important to you.
Your friend always cancels on you last minute when you have plans. Role play how you would handle this situation safely.
role play
You’re walking down the stairs and somebody collides with you and takes off without apologizing.
antecedent [before your behavior]
"what is it that I have to do?" is a question to ask during this provocation phase?
BEFORE / preparing
These are differences between being aggressive and assertive?
aggressive = being harsh, yelling, sometimes physically violent to get what you want/ need
assertive = being persistent, calm, yet firm, in order to get what you want/ need
T/F: "needing things to go your way" is an important step to achieving the outcome you want
FALSE: "needs" and "wants" are different & needs are fundamental to survival (water, food)
Role Play calming a friend down from making a mistake
role play
somebody uses your stuff without asking
antecedent [before your response/behavior]
This is an example of Coping with a heightened emotional state
relax, slow things down, it's just not worth it, count backward, take a deep breath, I can control myself
Name three skills that help you manage your anger.
[___]
What is being "mindful of your body?"
Ex: learning how to say what is really going on with you (know if you're: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, Intoxicated) and make sure you are okay to interact w/someone else
Role play a safe way to manage anger when you are being accused of something you did not do
Ex: I am sorry you feel that way. I know who I am and I would not take anything from you. I hope you accept my truth.
You think, “Everybody here is so stupid; they treat me like I'm a bad guy.”
behavior [thinking] consequence would be how you respond