Managing Feelings
What is Alexithymia?
The lack of emotional awareness or more specifically the ability to describe feelings.
What is a level one secret?
Something that we tell another person that is surface level. Not too embarrassing.
What does the (A)BCDE model represent?
A-Activating event
What are the 3 R's that make up insight?
What is the 2 types of motivation?
Internal and External
What are the 6 sections of the feelings wheel?
Mad, Scared, Joyful, Powerful, Peaceful, Sad
Which is more wise... A man that can keep a secret or the man who has no secrets to keep?
The man with no secrets to keep
What does the A (B) CDE mean?
B-Belief
What is a question that promotes sefl-reflection?
Am I doing all I can to improve? What can I do to make things better? What role did I play in the situation? What could I have done differently?
What do you need to create change. Name 2
Insight, understanding, self-awareness, vision, discernment.
What are some of the mental and emotional symptoms experienced within addiction?
Increased anxiety; depression, mood swings, paranoia, poor impulse control, anger
What is a level 2 secret?
Something that you may feel guilty about and would only share with your inner circle.
What does the (C) in ABCDE mean?
C-Consequences
What are the 3 key factors that reduce self-awareness?
Time-allowing it to pass with no action. Excuses-Blaming/rationalizing. Self-Deception-lying to oneself
What motivation requires support, structure, encouragement, and incentives?
External Motivation
What are some ways to manage emotions?
learning to cope with guilt, shame, trauma. meditation, prayer, breathing techniques, counting
What are the four elements to the Table of Trust?
Honesty, loyalty, consistency, communication
D means disputes and E means feelings. What are examples of both D and E?
D- dispute = one rejection doesn't mean all attempts will be rejected.
E-Effect =feeling and behavior - you win some and lose some, keep trying.
What is the key to self-awareness?
Honesty
What is included in Internal motivation? Name 2
Inspiration, ambition, determination, drive
What are the 5 key aspects of appropriately managing feelings?
Identify, Accept, understand, express, cope
What is a level 3 secret?
Something that you may go to the grave with or maybe one other person knows.
What is considered an activating event? Name 3
Disappointment, loss, failure, repeat mistake, stressor that is diff. to cope
What are 3 tools to help in making changes?
Accept, Cope, Adapt
What are 2 factors that will keep one from change? Name 2
Guilt, shame, denial, unforgiveness