Goals
An idea of a future or desired result that a person thinks about, plans, and commits to achieve.
Goals
A feeling of fear, dread, or uneasiness
Anxiety
The appreciation of yourself as a distinct individual;
Pride and confidence in oneself
Self-Respect
Rules and limits that a person creates to highlight
ways that others should respond and act around the
person and how the person will act if they do not
follow those limits.
Boundaries
The stages of coming out with an identity are linear.
(True/False)
False
You may move in and out of these
stages, especially when different life events occur or depending on the people you are around
The two types of goals
Short Term / Long Term
Short periods of great anxiety that occur without warning. Symptoms MAY include: increased heart rate, shortness of breath, choking, sweating
Panic Attack
When someone is not showing you respect, the best thing to do is ignore to it.
(True/False)
False.
Do NOT ignore it. The problem will not go away on its own.
Why is it important to set boundaries?
Communicate your needs to others to keep others from taking advantage of you.
Name an identity BESIDES disability that you may have to "come out" to someone about
Race, Ethnicity, Gender Identity, Sexual Orientation, Religion, Ect.
The 5-step Goal model to help people set goals for themselves
The "SMART" Goal Model
A technique used to help alleviate the symptoms of anxiety by taking controlled and purposeful breaths in order to shift your focus and calm your body
Mindful Breathing
If you are dealing with bullying or disrespect in the workplace, what should you do?
Talk to your supervisor or contact HR.
Name TWO workplace boundaries you might set for yourself
Not working overtime unless it is paid.
Overtime is only arranged ahead of time.
Not coming to work sick.
Not checking emails or answering work calls after work is over.
Not doing the work of others.
Name and explain ONE of the steps to coming out about your identity as a person with a disability
Self-Disclosure- Coming to terms with your disability and understanding it
Disclosure to Others- Talking to your friends, family, and coworkers about your disability
Tolerance- Find others with similar identities
Identity Acceptance- You accept yourself as a person with a disability, you see your value, and you have a good support group
Identity Pride- Your disability becomes the center of your identity and feelings of anger may push you to activism
Identity Synthesis- You see your disability as a part of your whole identity, but not the only thing that defines you
Name the 5 steps of the "SMART" goal model
S- specific
M- measurable
A- Attainable/Achievable
R- Relevant/Relatable
T- Timely
Specific situations or actions that lead to feelings of worry or fear
Triggers
What should you do if you are being disrespected by a friend or a loved one?
Keep Calm. Have a conversation. Discuss with them that you are feeling disrespected by an action
Name TWO boundaries you might set with friends or relationships
Not hanging out with someone that keeps breaking plans or is unreliable.
Not spending time on phones when together.
Not hanging out only when they need something from you.
Not going to the bar each time you are together.
Name and explain ONE of the steps to coming out about your identity as a person with a disability
Self-Disclosure- Coming to terms with your disability and understanding it
Disclosure to Others- Talking to your friends, family, and coworkers about your disability
Tolerance- Find others with similar identities
Identity Acceptance- You accept yourself as a person with a disability, you see your value, and you have a good support group
Identity Pride- Your disability becomes the center of your identity and feelings of anger may push you to activism
Identity Synthesis- You see your disability as a part of your whole identity, but not the only thing that defines you
Explain TWO of the steps in the "SMART" goal model
Specific- Who, What, Where, When, Why
Measurable- Set checkpoints to measure your success and to know when you have accomplished your goal
Attainable- Do you have the resources you need to reach this goal? If not, how can you get there?
Relevant- Is this goal reachable? Are you motivated enough, is it the right time, and is the goal worth it?
Timely- When does the goal begin, what can you do today, and When does the goal end?
A technique used to help you view yourself in a relaxing place to ease anxiety
Visualization
Name THREE elements of a person with Self-Respect?
-Advocates for themselves.
-Speaks well about themselves (Little negative self-talk).
-Learns from their mistakes.
-Understands they are worthy of respect.
-Does not bring others down.
-Surrounds themselves with people that respect them.
-Does not blame themselves for things that are not their fault.
What are TWO different ways to set Boundaries?
- Write it down, Detail what you will and will not do
- Practice
- Pay attention to body language
- Be consistent, stick to your boundaries
- Be Assertive, communicate what you want clearly
Name the 6 stages in coming out with an Identity
1- Self-Disclosure
2- Disclosure to Others
3- Tolerance
4- Acceptance
5- Pride
6- Synthesis