Boundaries & Consent
What does it mean to give consent?
True or False:
The decisions you make ONLY impact you?
False: Your decisions impact those around you
Finish this sentence:
Our brain is an ___________?
Organ
Growth and Fixed Mindsets are the same thing!
False!
Growth Mindset is very different than having a Fixed Mindset!
True or False
Our school was always at this location
False! HVM started off at a different location in Haverhill
What does it mean to set healthy boundaries?
Setting Healthy Boundaries means that you set some guidelines around things that you are comfortable with.
Ex: Saying NO when someone is trying to get you to do something you don't want to do
Saying: Please give me my space
Please ask me for a hug, don't assume that I am ok with you just randomly hugging me
True or False:
Consequences are ALWAYS negative
False!!
Good Choices/decisions = Good/Positive Consequences
Poor Choices/Decisions = Poor/negative consequences
How do our brains grow?
Our brains grow every time we try something new!
Why is it important to have a positive growth mindset?
It is important to have a growth mindset so you can continue to grow and learn.
Having a growth mindset can help increase your confidence and self-esteem!
True or False
Our school was once a manufacturing site for Payphones
TRUE!! This building that we now call school used to make Payphones!!
"I didn't like how you spoke to me the other day. I understand you are mad but please do not disrespect me like that again."
Boundary! Setting the expectation of what you will tolerate and not tolerate.
No one should tolerate disrespectful behaviors even if someone is having a bad day!
What does it mean to:
STOP
THINK
GO
STOP- Stop, take a breath (don't react right away)
THINK- What am I upset about? What just happened that made me feel this way? What are my choices and the consequence's of those choices
GO- Make the BEST choice that will help resolve my problem
What are the connections called inside our brains? What happens if we don't practice new skills?
We have billions of neurons that form PATHWAYS every time we learn something new.
If we don't practice our skills frequently, those pathways start to weaken
Growth or Fixed & Explain why?
I KNOW that I am going to be a great soccer player when I get older because everyone in my family is super athletic. I don't even have to try!
Fixed! Just because others are great at something, doesn't mean that you will be IF you don't practice!
True or False
HVM is the ONLY Montessori Charter Public School in Massachusetts
TRUE!!! HVM is one of a kind!!
"You scared me when you came up from behind and gave me a hug. Next time, please ask me for a hug instead of assuming I was ok with it?"
Consent! NEVER assume someone is OK with you getting into someone's personal space or touching someone without their consent/permission!
Give an example of a friend making a positive choice and receiving a positive consequence.
Give an example of a friend making a negative choice and receiving a negative consequence.
Student example will vary
What is the fancy, scientific word that explains our brains capacity to grow?
Neuroplasticity
True or False and why?
You can't have a fixed and a growth mindset at the same time.
False!
You may have an assignment that is really hard for you so you may start off feeling like you "CAN'T" do this (Fixed) but then you ask for help or take a deep breath and tell yourself "I've got this!" (positive self-talk = Growth Mindset)
How many years has HVM been a school?
2004 School opened
HVM is 20 Years Old!
What are some possible consequences when you do not respect someone's personal boundaries and/or ignore consent?
Possible Consequences:
Lose friendship/relationship
get into legal trouble
Lose people's trust and respect
What decision would you make in this situation and what would be the consequence.
You made plans with your friend to go to the Rockingham Mall Saturday morning. That morning, you get a text from another friend inviting you over to go swimming. You LOVE to swim!
Student answers will vary
What are the 3 major parts of our brains that we covered in class this year!
Bonus 100 points if you can explain what each part is responsible for!
Amygdala= Controls/ regulates our emotions
Prefrontal Cortex= decision making part of our brain
Hippocampus= stores memory
What are the difference between receiving:
FEEDBACK vs CRITICISM
FEEDBACK= typically positive suggestions on ways you can improve and get better at something
CRITICISM= typically negative and makes you feel bad about yourself
How do students get accepted into HVM?
Do families have to pay to have kids here at HVM?
Students are put on a lottery system. Every family has a number and when openings are available, the next family in line get's a call!
No, HVM is a tuition FREE school!
HVM is a school of choice!