Family Roles
This family role requires that the entire family life revolves around them; or the other roles have taken on the responsibility to “make sense” of, and handle, the the part this person plays in the everyday dysfunction of the family system.
The Addict
"Do as I say, not as I do." is an example of what?
Hypocrisy
Affective roles
Exist to provide emotional support and encouragement to family members. Both sets of roles (with instrumental roles) must be present for healthy family functioning.
This family role is often held by the oldest child; is usually the one who devotes their time and attention to making the family look “normal” and without problems; and is overachieving and being successful in school, work or social activities, often feeling as if they can mask or make up for the dysfunctional home life.
The Hero
This type of dysfunctional parenting style is a parent's manipulation of a child in order to achieve some outcome, or to violate the other parent's rights or interests.
Children as pawns
True or False: Conflict is not allowed in healthy families.
False. Well-adjusted families, it is acceptable to talk about problems even when it is uncomfortable. Communication is highly valued and there is respect between family members. Family members actively listen to each other, and allow each other to express their feelings. Difficult conversations are excellent opportunities for us to teach our children good communication skills.
This family role is often occupied by the second born; who's general negative behavior turns the focus away from the addict or alcoholic in the family; and may also be reacting to the attention that The Hero child receives.
The Scapegoat
Name 3 signs of a dysfunctional family.
Addiction, abuse, neglect, high conflict home environment, emotional manipulation.
Name 3 signs of a functioning family.
Support; love and caring for other family members; providing security and a sense of belonging; open communication; making each person within the family feel important, valued, respected and esteemed.
Family members in this role basically disappears; they become loners, or are very shy; and they feel like strangers or outsiders, not only in social situations, but also within their own families; their way of handling the addictive behavior in the family is to draw away from interaction with family members.
The Lost Child
Dysfunctional families can become functional healthy families IF what...?
IF they want to do so. The family has to WANT to do so. The family has to care about each other and what each other thinks and feels and wants.
Instrumental roles
are concerned with the provision of physical resources (e.g., food, clothing, and shelter), decision-making and family management.
This family role is often the youngest child in the family; they are the court jester, trying to get everyone to laugh; they do this unconsciously to improve the atmosphere in the dysfunctional household, as well as turn the focus away from the addict or alcoholic.
The Mascot
The 3 rules of a dysfunctional family.
Don't talk, don't trust, and don't feel.
Name the 3 main functions of a family.
Socializes children, provides practical and emotional support for its members, regulates sexual reproduction, and provides its members with a social identity.