Coping Skills
James Uses
James Uses
Asking staff to go to my room and calm down
Time Out(Taking Space)
This involves holding back information and telling only the parts you want to or saying something that is not true. We do this due to the fact we do not want to earn consequences
lying
Discussion of History and Triggers and Dysfunctional thinking that leads to poor decision making and occurs again and again
Dysfunctional Response Cycle
The Person I offended
Direct Victim
A slip up that could lead to longer and worse behavioral decisions
Lapse
Telling self consequences that could occur if I make a Negative choice. Reminding self about goals
Self Talk
We pretend something is not true when it really is. Sometimes we refuse to face the facts because it makes are lives easier but only for a while.
Denial
A step by step summary of my committed sexual offense is
Disclosure
A family member of my victim
Indirect Victim
Someone deterioration with their behaviors after a period of progress
Relapse
When you stop bad thoughts and change it to do something good. You could do this by visualizing things that bother me to stop the negative thought. After Try to think positive thoughts.
Thought Switch
Big Global statements that don't leave room for anything else to be true. When you hear a word like always and never those are clues that this thinking error is being used.
universals
My life history in detail including education, family, offenses, sexual history and other issues and events that occurred in my life.
Autobiography
Both persons are intellectually equal when agreeing to have sex. You need to be honest when doing this. Both People need to understand what is going on. Permission is required. A person can't do this when intoxicated.
Consent
Before you acted out sexually you made choices which contributed to you offending. It might not seem like big decisions but were the first steps to having sexual behavior problems.
SUDS
Taking 3 deep breaths and reminding self of how I can create a negative ending to a situation so I make a positive decision.
Stop Card
This is finger pointing or putting the responsibility on some one else. We use this to avoid getting into trouble or embarrassment.
Blaming
Letters written to your direct and indirect victims where you take responsibility for your sex offenses.
Victim Impact Letters
Where a person shows their private parts to another person without permission.
Indecent Exposure
Are any person place or thing or feelings that it make more likely you will offend or hurt someone.
High Risk Situation
Is when we you teach your body not get aroused or fantasize about things that will get you in trouble. Thinking about the positive and negative choices.
Covert Sensitization
Suppose to the Case without any proof
Assuming
Discussion of High Risk Situations that can lead to a Relapse and Coping Skills used to help prevent the Relapse
Relapse Prevention Plan
Rubbing up against someone or touching someone for your own sexual pleasure why you are in a public place. Usually it is done in a crowded place so the victim will think the contact was accidental.
Frottage
A network of people who provide practical or emotional help. It can include family friends mentors or other professional
Support System.