a process of exchange where there is desire and motivation on the part of those involved to get to know each other as individuals.
interpersonal communication
our need to have a close connection with others as well as our need to have our own space and identity
Autonomy-Connection
Conflict as Productive
between two people. It may also occur in small groups, such as you and your housemates trying to figure out a system for household chores.
dyads
idea that we desire predictability as well as spontaneity in our relationships.
Novelty-Predictability
Conflict as Destructive
communication between individual
interpersonal communication2
the desire to be open and honest with others while at the same time not wanting to reveal everything about yourself to someone else.
Openness-Closedness
One Type of Conflict
Affective conflict, Conflict of Interest, Value Conflict, Cognitive Conflict, Goal Conflict
the process of revealing information about yourself to others that is not readily known by them—you have to disclose it
Self-disclosure
neutralize, separation, segmentation, reframing
How We Handle Relational Dialectics
dominating strategy, obliging style, compromising style, avoids, integrating
Strategies for Managing Conflict
the arena, the blind spot, the facade, and the unknown
Johari Window
three relational dialectics
Autonomy-Connection, Novelty-Predictability, Openness-Closedness
What is Affective conflict.
arises when we have incompatible feelings with another person.