Empathy
What is Empathy
Showing GENUINE concern for another person, putting yourself "in their shoes", trying to understand what the other person is feeling.
What does T mean
True
What are boundaries?
Boundaries are an imaginary bubble that you
have around you. You allow things in your
bubble that you are comfortable with and do not
let things in that make you uncomfortable with
What is one possible consequence if you do not respect someone's boundary
-Lose friends
-Make others uncomfortable
-You feel uncomfortable
-Offend others
-Possible physical altercation
Is this Empathy?
Susan is seen sitting upset at recess alone. Brian asks Susan what is wrong. Susan tells Brian that she feels left out since no one picked her to play on the kickball game. Brian says that he would also feel alone if he wasn't picked for a game and asks Susan if she would like to play a game of basketball with him.
Yes- Brian was able to see that Susan was upset, identify that he also would feel upset and then offered to play a game with her.
What does H mean
Helpful
What are the type of boundaries?
Physical/Personal Space
Emotional
Social
What could happen if you RESPECT other's boundaries
-Others are comfortable
-You are comfortable
-Seen as trusted
-Healthier relationships
Is this Empathy?
Susan forgets her lunch and is visibly upset. Brian can see Susan is upset, and asks her what is wrong. Susan tell Brian that she left her lunch at home. Brian says "Man that sucks" and sits next to her and starts to eat his lunch.
No- While Brian acknowledges that is "sucks" that Susan didn't bring her lunch, he sat next to her and ate. It does not show GENUINE concern.
What does I mean
Important
What type of boundary is this?
Space around you that others can touch you (Closest inside bubble)
Personal/Physical
Use an I statement to share how you are feeling about something that someone said that made you feel uncomfortable.
I feel uncomfortable when you said that statement because it was inappropriate. Next time, please do not say things like that around me again.
I feel
When
Because
Next time
Name one reason why empathy is important in friendships.
It helps people feel understood / builds trust / strengthens the friendship / solves problems peacefully
What does N mean
Necessary
What type of boundary is this?
Personal limits you set for yourself around what
makes YOU feel comfortable, not others
ex. What makes you comfortable and not feeling guilty about letting others know
Emotional
What are the areas of a 4 part apology
I am sorry for...
This was wrong because...
In the future I will...
Will you forgive me
True or False: Empathy means agreeing with everything someone says.
False
What does K mean
Kind
What type of boundary is this?
What everyone has agreed upon as a “social norm” or how you and others see what is acceptable
ex. Laws
Social
Give an example of a social boundary
Social boundaries: What everyone has agreed upon as a “social norm” or how you and others see what is acceptable
Examples: Laws, social norms