Clarifying Priorities
This priority focuses on getting what you want or achieving your goal in a situation
What is Objective Effectiveness?
The “D” in DEAR MAN stands for clearly stating the facts of the situation.
What is Describe?
The “G” in GIVE means using a soft approach and avoiding attacks or threats.
What is Gentle?
The “F” in FAST means being fair to yourself and the other person.
What is Fair?
Before ending a relationship, you should evaluate whether the relationship is harmful to this area of your life.
What is your emotional, physical, or psychological well-being?
This priority focuses on maintaining or improving the relationship.
What is Relationship Effectiveness?
The “E” in DEAR MAN stands for sharing your feelings and opinions.
What is Express?
The “I” in GIVE means listening and showing interest in the other person.
What is Interested?
The “A” in FAST reminds you not to over-apologize.
What is No Apologies (for existing or having needs)?
This skill can be used to assertively set boundaries before deciding to walk away.
What is DEAR MAN?
This priority focuses on keeping your dignity and acting in line with your values.
What is Self-Respect Effectiveness?
The “A” in DEAR MAN involves clearly asking for what you want or saying no.
What is Assert?
The “V” in GIVE means acknowledging the other person’s feelings.
What is Validate?
The “S” in FAST stands for sticking to your values.
What is Stick to values?
If a relationship repeatedly violates your values, this FAST component becomes crucial.
What is Stick to values?
These are the three questions you ask yourself to clarify priorities before making a request.
What are: How important is getting what I want? Keeping the relationship? Maintaining my self-respect?
The “R” in DEAR MAN means explaining the positive effects of getting your request met.
What is Reinforce?
The “E” in GIVE means using humor or a light tone when appropriate.
What is Easy manner?
The “T” in FAST means being honest and not exaggerating or acting helpless.
What is Truthful?
This factor helps determine how firm or intense you should be when making a request.
What is clarifying priorities and considering context?
When ending a destructive relationship, this priority often becomes most important.
What is Self-Respect Effectiveness?
These three components of DEAR MAN help you stay focused on your goal, present yourself with confidence, and remain willing to compromise when necessary.
What are Mindful, Appear Confident, and Negotiate?
This skill helps others feel good about themselves and about you.
What is GIVE?
This DBT skill helps you maintain dignity when saying no.
What is FAST?
This DBT framework helps individuals obtain objectives skillfully while strengthening healthy relationships and ending destructive ones.
What is Interpersonal Effectiveness?