Anger Detectives
Name 2 body cues that tell you you're getting angry
Clenched fist, hot face, increased breathing or heart rate, headache, dizzy, etc
Which part helps you think before acting?
Frontal Cortex or "smarty pants" part of the brain.
What is "fight"?
Fight: trying to face or push back against a threat.
Getting aggressive, yelling, being physical, etc.
Name 1 solution to a conflict with a friend.
Talk it out, compromise, take a break/wait until you calm down, share how you are feeling, discuss possible solutions
What is a boundary?
A rule about how you want to be treated.
What happens to your breathing when you're angry
It gets faster and more shallow
What is "flipping your lid"?
Losing control, letting your amygdala take over, becoming emotionally overwhelmed or dysregulated.
What is Flight?
Running away, avoiding, leaving a situation quickly, etc.
Why is it important to think before acting?
Gives your brain time to choose a smart response instead of reacting right away, it keeps you out of trouble, helps you solve problems,
Give 1 example of a strong boundary statement.
Stop, I don't like that.
True or False: Anger is always bad
False
Name 1 way to get your thinking brain back.
Take deep breaths, name words backward letter by letter, count, get a hug, etc.
What is Freeze?
Getting stuck or unable to act when something feels scary or overwhelming.
Instead of fighting or running away, your body kind of pauses to figure out what to do.
What makes a solution a GOOD one?
What should your voice sound like?
Calm, strong, clear, etc.
What is 1 healthy way to release anger energy?
Exercise, squeeze a ball, push against a wall, go for a walk, ride a bike, etc.
What can mistakes teach us?
How to improve, it's okay not to be perfect, to not give up, what works and doesn't work, how to solve problems, to be brave, how to stay clam when things go wrong, etc.
Name 3 coping tools that work for you?
Playing with friends, getting a hug, taking a break, walk, etc.
What is an expected reaction to a small problem (e.g., losing a pencil).
Stay clam, think before acting, etc.
What are words you say in an apology?
I'm sorry for... (what you did) it was... because... I won't to it again (how to fix it), is there anything else I can do, etc.
Anger Iceberg: Give 1 example of a "hidden feeling".
Sad, hurt, embarrassed, helpless, disappointed, etc.
True or False: Smart people don't make mistakes.
False
Name 2 coping tools that don't work for you
Hugging a tree, reading, baking, deep breathes, etc.
What happens if your reaction is bigger than the program?
The solution triggers unintended and sometimes bigger consequences, it can cause more problems, we can get in trouble, it can make us feel worse, etc.
Why is eye contact and the volume and tone of your voice important?
To demonstrate sincerity, show you mean it, show respect, etc.