☆ INTERPERSONAL SKILLS☆
Name one of the three priorities or goals of interpersonal effectiveness
-- Objective (getting what you want)
-- Relationship Building (maintaining/ending)
-- Maintaining Self Respect (standing up for self)
Give an example of how to validate
pay attention, reflect, read minds (between the
lines), understand their point of view..
What is being dialectical?
Loving and hating something at the same time, being afraid of change and wanting it,…having more than
one way to look at something – two things that might seem opposite are true
What are the two consequences that increase behaviors?
Positive reinforcement and Negative Reinforcement
What is invalidation?
Communicates that what was thought or said is not correct or not allowed
Name one of the Interpersonal Skills (*hint: acronyms)
-- Acronym for “objectives” goal: DEAR MAN
*Bonus Question: What does the D stand for?
-- Acronym for “maintaining relationships”? – GIVE *Bonus Question: What does the V
-- Acronym for “self respect”? – FAST *Bonus Question: name one of the letters
How do we recover from invalidation?
check facts, compassion, self validation, …
What is one of the thinking mistakes (cognitive distortions)?
MAGNIFICATION, MINIMIZATION, CATASTROPHIZING, OVERGENERALIZATION, MAGICAL THINKING, PERSONALIZATION, JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS, MIND READING, FORTUNE TELLING, EMOTIONAL REASONING, DISQUALIFYING THE POSITIVE, "SHOULD STATEMENTS", ALL OR NOTHING THINKING
What is a way to decrease or stop behaviors?
Punishment
Give one example of how to actively practice mindfulness.
JOURNALING, DRAWING, MEDITATION, PMR, YOGA, SINGLE-TASKING, ETC
Name one thing to practice for increasing friendships and relationships.
-- proximity, similarities, conversation skills, express liking...
*Bonus Question: What is something to consider when choosing to end a relationship?
Give an example of self-validation
affirmation, cheerleading statement
Give me a personal example of a dialectic you struggle with or are working on accepting
Independence AND dependence, being too strict AND being too loose, making light of problem behaviors AND making too much of typical adolescent behavior
What is the name for the action of slowly increasing rewards to stimulate a goal of increasing a behavior?
Shaping
What is one of the three states of mind?
EMOTION, REASON, WISE
Name one of the factors that gets in the way of interpersonal effectiveness
No skills, Not knowing what you want, Emotions, Forgetting long term/short term goals,
Other people (getting in the way), Thoughts and Beliefs (worries)
What is validation?
Communicating to others or self that the thought or feeling makes sense
DIALECTICS REMIND US THAT...
-- THE UNIVERSE IS FILLED WITH OPPOSING SIDES / OPPOSING FORCES.
-- EVERYTHING AND EVERY PERSON IS CONNECTED IN SOME WAY.
-- CHANGE IS THE ONLY CONSTANT.
-- CHANGE IS TRANSACTIONAL
Give an example of how to increase positive behaviors or reduce negative behaviors
positive negative reinforcement, shaping, extinction, punishment
WHAT DOES DBT STAND FOR?
DIALECTICAL BEHAVIOR THERAPY
Name one factor to consider for deciding intensity (saying no, asking)
Timing, can the person provide, within rights, …
How do we practice validating others? (give a specific example)
Eye contact, active listening, nodding our head, reflect the thought in our own words
GIVE AN EXAMPLE ON HOW TO THINK AND ACT DIALECTICALLY
-- ASK WISE MIND, LET GO OF EXTREMES, BALANCE OPPOSITES, EMBRACE CONFUSION, PLAY DEVILS ADVOCATE, USE METAPHORS AND STORYTELLING, TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WANT THEM TO TREAT YOU... ECT
COMPLETE THIS SENTENCE:
BEHAVIOR LEARNED IN ___________ MAY NOT HAPPEN IN _______
BEHAVIOR LEARNED IN (ONE SITUATION) MAY NOT HAPPEN IN (ANOTHER SITUATION)
What is Radical Acceptance?
To jump in completely, fully, totally, all the way…it is what it is, can’t be changed. NOT approval, but stopping the resistance. Pain exists – but not suffering.