In My Control?
Can you control how you respond to a situation?
Yes
A boundary focuses on whose behavior?
Your own
Name one healthy coping skill.
Examples: walking, journaling, calling support, breathing
Can you change something that already happened in the past?
No
Someone makes you angry. What can you do before reacting?
Pause/breathe/think first
Can you control whether another person forgives you?
No
If you yell at me, Im going to leave the conversation. Is this a boundary or control?
A boundary
What is one thing you can do if you feel triggered?
Use a coping skill/reach out for support
Acceptance means you have to like what happened. True or false?
False
Your family still doesn’t trust you even though you’re doing better. What CAN you control?
Your consistency, honesty, and actions
Name two things that are outside of your control.
other peoples choices, opinions, the past, forgiveness
What is the difference between a boundary and trying to control someone?
A boundary says what YOU will do; control tells someone else what THEY must do
What can happen when someone isolates instead of asking for help during recovery?
Increased stress, cravings, or relapse risk
What is one reason letting go can feel difficult?
Fear, anxiety, rejection, abandonment, uncertainty, etc.
An old friend invites you somewhere people will be using. What is one healthy response?
Say no/leave/set a boundary/contact support
You cannot control someones reaction to your boundary, but what CAN you control?
Whether you maintain the boundary
You are not allowed to drink anymore. Is that a boundary or control?
Control
Finish the recovery pattern: Feel, ____, Think,Choose.
Pause
What is the difference between acceptance and giving up?
Acceptance recognizes reality while still choosing what to do next
Someone refuses to answer your texts after an argument. Name one unhealthy response and one healthy response.
Unhealthy: repeated texts/use/anger. Healthy: give space, self-soothe, call support
Why can trying to control things outside of your control become harmful to recovery?
It can increase stress, anger, resentment, impulsivity, or unhealthy coping
Why is sticking to a boundary sometimes harder than setting one?
Guilt, fear of rejection, pressure from others, wanting approval, etc.
How can substance use sometimes become an attempt to control emotions?
By numbing or escaping uncomfortable feelings instead of processing them
What does this statement mean: I may not like this situation, but I can decide what I do next.
Acceptance and focusing on what is within your control
Someone you love is still using substances. How can you support them without trying to control their recovery?
Set boundaries, offer appropriate support, protect your own recovery, and recognize their choices are theirs