Green Flags vs. Red Flags
A friend or partner genuinely celebrates your achievements and encourages you to spend time with other friends. Is this a green flag or a red flag?
What is a Green Flag?
Setting a boundary means clearly communicating your physical, emotional, or digital limits to another person. (True or False)
What is True?
Instead of saying "You always ignore me!", using this type of sentence phrasing helps express feelings without placing immediate blame.
What are "I" statements (e.g., "I feel ignored when...")?
True or False: It is completely healthy for a partner to expect an immediate response to every text message, even while you are in class or asleep.
What is False?
Name two types of trusted adults at school you can talk to if you or a friend are experiencing an unhealthy relationship.
Who are Psychologists, Teachers, Nurses, Social Workers, Coaches, House Parents, or Administrators?
Someone constantly checks your location, demands your phone passwords, or gets upset when you reply late. Is this a green flag or a red flag?
What is a Red Flag?
Name two healthy ways to express a personal boundary to a friend or partner.
What are using "I" statements, speaking directly/calmly, or saying "No" without needing to make up an excuse?
Giving full attention, making eye contact, and repeating back what someone said to ensure you understand is called this type of listening.
What is Active Listening?
Sharing private photos, messages, or personal secrets without permission is a violation of this.
What is Trust (or Privacy / Consent)?
A healthy relationship should enhance your life, not make up your entire...
What is Identity (or Life / Happiness)?
You have an argument, but both people listen without calling names and work together to find a solution. Is this a green flag or a red flag?
What is a Green Flag?
If you set a boundary and someone repeatedly ignores or tests it, this is a sign that they lack respect for your...
What are limits (or consent / feelings)?
Passive-aggressive behavior, silent treatment, or posting vague call-outs online are examples of this unhelpful communication style.
What is Indirect Communication?
Constantly monitoring someone’s follower list, location, or comment section out of suspicion is known as digital...
What is Digital Snooping (or Stalking / Monitoring)?
If a friend tells you they feel unsafe in their relationship, the most supportive first step is to...
What is listening without judgment and supporting them in getting help from a trusted adult?
A partner tries to control what you wear, who you hang out with, or guilt-trips you for having plans without them.
What is Isolation (or a Red Flag)?
A partner tries to control who you hang out with, or guilt-trips you for having plans without them.
What is Isolation (or a Red Flag)?
When a disagreement gets heated, taking a temporary 15-minute break to cool down before resuming the discussion is called taking a...
What is a Time-Out (or cooling-off period)?
Pressure to send explicit images or personal information online is a form of digital harassment. What is the safest immediate action to take?
What is saying no, saving evidence/screenshots, blocking, and telling a trusted adult?
A professionally trained psychologist on the Gunn faculty.
Who is Dr. Konik?
"Love bombing"—flooding someone with extreme affection, gifts, and pressure to commit very early in a relationship—is often a warning sign of this.
What is Control or Manipulation?
True or False: Changing your mind about something you previously agreed to is totally okay and should be respected.
What is True?
When both people in a conflict give up a little bit of what they want to reach an agreement that works for both, it's called this.
What is Compromise?
Curating an unrealistic standard of what a "perfect couple" looks like on TikTok or Instagram often leads to this negative feeling in real relationships.
What are Unrealistic Expectations (or Comparison / Insecurity)?
The term for maintaining your own hobbies, friendships, and goals while in a relationship is called maintaining your personal...
What is Independence (or Autonomy)?