All About Mrs. Yates
What is Mrs. Yates favorite color?
Turquoise
What does it mean to take responsibility?
To take ownership of a choice you made or something you said.
What is a calming strategy?
A tool to help you regulate emotions and feel calmer when big feelings come up.
What does it mean if an apology is genuine?
It's honest, the tone is kind and meaningful, you name what you did and how you will not do it in the future, you ask if an apology is accepted.
What is an upstander and what is a bystander?
An upstander is someone who stands up for someone being treated unkindly and a bystander is someone who stands by and does not step in to help someone being treated unkindly or a poor choice being made.
What is Mrs. Yates job called?
School Counselor
What does the saying "actions have consequences" mean? Are all consequences negative?
That every choice you make will have a consequence and you should think about the consequence before making a choice. Not all consequences are negative.
Why are calming strategies important tools to have?
Because it's good to be able to regulate our feelings and stay in control of our choices regardless of what our feelings are. It helps us stay calm and able to get through tough times.
How do you give a bug and a wish?
The lesson was that all it takes is ONE person to be an upstander to give others the courage to stand up for others as well. If we all just sit by and watch unkind things happen, it is just as bad.
What is Mrs. Yates job as a school counselor?
To help students! To listen to them and help them learn how to handle problems and calming strategies and skills to be great people.
What does it mean to place blame or not take responsibility?
What is square breathing? Demonstrate
A calming strategy that helps regulate feelings. Demonstrate*
How would you give a bug and a wish for this situation?
During quiet work time, a classmate keeps making noises, walking around and up to your table, trying to talk to you, and being distracting.
It bugs me when you are distracting. I wish you would sit down and let everyone work quietly.
What does it mean to use a "distractor" in conversations that might be unkind?
A distractor is something you can use when a conversation is unkind or seems like a bad choice. Like changing the topic or using a joke or cool fact.
What 2 schools did Mrs. Yates go to?
University of Iowa and Vanderbilt
What does the acronym T.H.I.N.K. stand for?
T - is it true?
H - is it helpful?
I - is it inspiring?
N - is it necessary?
K - is it kind?
Name 3 calming strategies:
Count to 10, go on a walk, take a nap, starfish breathing, eat a snack, color or draw, talk to someone, journal, listen to music, yoga, meditation, etc.
Why is being able to communicate issues (bug and wish) important and why is being able to give an apology important? How many times should you use bug and a wish before getting adult help?
Because it helps resolve issues before they become big problems. It creates good friendships, prevents fights. Being able to apologize shows that you can take responsibility for choices and try to make things right. It helps everyone feel better. You should try it 2 times before getting an adult to help.
What is the difference between tattling and reporting?
Reporting is necessary when you cannot solve the problem on your own, someone could get hurt, or it's an emergency. Tattling is used when you want to get someone in trouble and you didn't try to solve the problem on your own first.
How many Taylor Swift concerts has Mrs. Yates been to?
9!
What might a consequence be if you tell someone you don't really like their new toy, because you have a toy that is bigger and "cooler"? How is it not using the strategy T.H.I.N.K.?
The friend might feel upset and hurt, it shows you didn't use T.H.I.N.K. because it wasn't necessary or kind.
Give an example of a time you have needed to use a calming strategy. Which strategy would you use.
Give example.
Situation: A classmate is talking about a playdate they had over the weekend that you weren't invited to. What would the bug and wish sound like and what would a sincere apology sound like?
It bugs me when you talk about a playdate that not everyone was invited to. I wish you would not talk about that in front of me.
I'm sorry I talked about the playdate in front of you, I won't do that again. Do you accept my apology?
How can you be an upstander in this situation? You hear a few classmates making unkind jokes about another classmate.
You can respectfully but firmly tell them that what they are saying is unkind and to please stop. You can use a bug and wish as well. "It bugs me when you make unkind jokes. I wish you would stop and be kind."