Kelso's Choices
What is the hand signal for "Go to another game?"
Playing air guitar
When someone is sad, name two body cues that show how they feel.
Two of the following: raised eyebrows, tears, frown, head down, shoulders sagging, sitting alone, crossed hands and/or feet.
True or False? When you give someone a compliment, it helps them feel better about themselves.
True. Compliments can "stick!"
True or False? Connections in your brain grow when you learn from a mistake.
True. Dendrites in the brain connect when you learn.
True or False? When you say the problem, you should be calm and not use blaming words.
True. Blaming words can be disrespectful.
When you tell someone to "Please stop," name one thing that is important to do so that they know you are serious.
Use eye contact, be serious (don't laugh), make sure your hand signal is not too close to their face. (One answer = full points.)
If you are going to go on a new rollercoaster for the first time, name two emotions you may experience at the same time.
Answers vary. Examples: excited and nervous, happy and worried, scared and excited..etc.
True or False? Someone can make you feel angry.
False. No one can "make" you feel a certain way. You are in charge of your own emotions. You can choose to ignore or change how you feel inside.
True or False? If you tell yourself that you will NEVER be good at playing pogo, then your brain can't grow and you may never learn to play well.
True. When we say NEVER, then we tell our brains that we shouldn't even try.
If you say the problem with blame, how might the other person feel, and will the problem get solved?
The person may feel mad, and then no one is ready to think of solutions.
What is the difference between a big problem and a small problem?
A big problem means it is dangerous OR if you have used 2 Kelso's choices but the problem isn't solved, and you should go right to an adult. A small problem means you can trying using Kelso's choices to solve the problem on your own.
True or False? All jokes are funny.
False. Just because someone feels a joke is funny, another person may feel mad or embarrassed.
True or False? Saying something mean to someone can be as hurtful as physically harming them.
True. People can feel hurt on the inside as much as they can feel hurt on the outside.
You make a mistake and hit a ball too hard when playing pogo and get out. You feel angry. What can you say to yourself?
Answers vary. Examples:
"I'm going to cool off and get back in line."
"If I slow down and think, next time I won't hit the ball so hard."
Name two blaming words you have learned.
Examples: Always, never, because of you, hogging, (you) made me..., etc.
In the book, "The Rabbit Listened," what did the rabbit do to help that was different from all of the other animals?
Instead of giving the boy advice, the rabbit waited for the boy to be ready to talk and it listened.
When you are angry with someone, pick the two ways you may choose to "Cool Off."
1. Walk away and take breaths.
2. Yell at the other student to tell them how angry you are.
3. Ask the teacher to take a break.
4. Ignore what happened even though you are still angry.
1. and 3.
Eli, the carpenter.
When I make a mistake, I can...
1. Try again.
2. Make a small change.
3. ______?__________.
Answers may vary. Example:
3. Ask for help.
If you are angry and not ready to state the problem without blame, what is one thing you can do?
Answers vary. Examples:
1. Use belly breathing
2. Uinfinity breathing
3. Take a break away from the problem
4. Get a sip of water
At recess you are playing tag. Someone tags you too hard. You are not hurt, but you feel angry.
1. Is this a big or small problem?
2. If this is a small problem, name one Kelso's choice you can use to solve the problem.
1. This is a small problem.
2. You can "Cool off" first. Then you can "Talk it out." Use your words to explain how it felt and what you would like changed. (Other Kelso's choices are okay to use.)
Remember, when you tag, it should be a small tap on the shoulder or back.
When a person cries after being surprised by a visit from someone they love, what emotion are they feeling?
shock, excitement, joy
If a classmate works hard on a drawing and looks proud of it, what compliment can you give them?
Answers vary. Examples:
1. "You worked very hard on that!"
2. "You are a very good drawer!"
3. "Can you teach me how you drew this?"
Why do you think babies fall, but try over and over again to learn to walk?
They have not been taught to give up. They stay positive and learn from their mistakes.
True or False? Adults made fewer mistakes than children and are better and learning new things.
False. Adults may have learned different ways to cope better when making mistakes, but adults make as many mistakes, sometimes more, than children do.