Giving & Receiving Compliments
What is a compliment?
A compliment is when you say something positive about someone that makes them feel good
What is the job of your EYES when listening?
Looking at the speaker
What does the first S in STEPS stand for?
Space - Personal Space
There are 4 zones of Personal Space. Name one of the zones.
Name two and get double points!
(1) Intimate Zone
(2) Personal Zone
(3) Social Zone
(4) Public Zone
What does Solution mean?
A solution is the action you take in order to solve a problem
What are some things you can compliment people on?
(Name at least two things)
How they look (e.g., “I like your shirt”, “Nice hair”, etc.)
If they did a good job on something (e.g., “I love the picture you drew”, “Great job on that soccer game”, etc.)
If they did something nice for someone (e.g., “I really appreciate you helping me with my homework”, etc.)
If they have a great personal quality (e.g., “You are such a nice person”, etc.
What is the job of your BRAIN when listening?
Thinking about what is being said
What does the T in STEPS stand for?
Taking turns or turn-taking
What's the difference between interrupting and blurting out?
Interrupting is when you start talking in the middle of someone else’s sentence to give your own idea (you steal part of their turn)
Blurting out is when you start talking before someone else had a chance (you steal their whole turn)
Name 2 steps for Solving a Problem
Ask, "What is the problem?"
Think of some solutions
Ask, "Is it safe? How will others feel about this solution? Is it a fair solution? Will it work?"
Choose a Solution and use it
Ask for help if your solution doesn't work
Name One of the Three steps that you should follow when giving a compliment.
1. Think about what you want to tell the person
2. Walk up to the person
3. Tell them your compliment in a sincere tone of voice
What is the job of your MOUTH when listening?
Quiet, no talking
What does the E in STEPS stand for?
Eye Contact
What is the difference between staring and normal eye contact?
When you make eye contact you might look a couple of seconds away, when you stare you do not look away
When you make eye contact you blink, when you stare you hardly blink
When you make eye contact, your head might move, when you stare your head is still
What is a PlayDough Problem?
A Play Doh problem is a problem that we have control over
It is a problem we can solve
Say an example of a compliment in a sincere voice and an insincere voice.
The class will determine if your team gets the points for this one.
What is the job of your HEART when listening?
Having feelings about what is being said
What does the P in STEPS stand for?
Polite or politeness
What are some examples of being polite during a conversation? (Name at least two)
For Double Points, give an example of being impolite during a conversation.
- Greeting people
- Using kind words
- Using a kind facial expression
- Using STEPS
- Being a good listener
Impolite:
- Using unkind words
- Having an angry facial expression
- Using an angry tone of voice
What is a rock problem?
A rock problem is a situation that can’t be changed
What should you do if someone gives you a compliment and you don't agree?
Thank them anyway
What is the job of your hands and feet when listening?
Keep them still, quiet
What does the last S in STEPS stand for?
Staying on topic
What does “being off topic” mean?
Being off topic means that two people are talking about two different things
Name 2 things you can do when you have a Rock Problem
Find a healthy way to deal with the situation
Make the best out of the situation
Try to see positives in the situation
Talk to friends about the problem
Talk to a counselor about the problem