Bystander vs. Upstander
What is a bystander?
Someone who sees something wrong but does nothing
What does it mean to include someone?
Invite and welcome them
What is self-talk?
How we talk to ourselves in our head
What is a stereotype?
A false or unfair idea about a group of people
What is self-advocacy?
Speaking up for yourself/ Asking for what you need respectfully
What is an upstander?
Someone who speaks up or takes action when they see something wrong
What should you do if you notice someone being excluded?
Try to include them
Which is an example of optimistic self-talk?
I can do this or I can try again and do better
True or False: All boys like sports, and all girls like dolls.
False
Show an example of self-advocacy?
Can you help me understand this?
True or False: An upstander helps stop bullying.
True
What is one way to help someone feel included?
Sit with them at lunch or talk to them in class
Why is optimistic self-talk important?
It helps us stay calm, confident and positive
How can stereotypes be harmful?
They create unfair judgments and limit opportunities
Why is it important to speak up for yourself?
So your needs and feelings are understood and helps you be successful
Give one example of how you can be an upstander at school.
Tell a teacher or report unsafe behavior
What is a clique?
A group that often excludes others
Which is a healthy self-care activity?
Going for a walk or Journaling your feelings
What is one way to avoid stereotyping others?
Get to know people as individuals
What is a respectful way to set a boundary with a friend?
I statement or “I feel uncomfortable when you do that. Please stop.”
What should you do if you are scared to speak up?
Ask an adult for help or find a safe way to report the situation
How can cliques hurt others even if they don’t say anything mean?
By making others feel left out
What can you do when you’re feeling stressed?
Take a deep breath, break, or talk to someone
Why is it important to avoid making assumptions about people?
It shows respect and helps build true friendships
If you feel left out of a group, what could you say?
Can I join you