Kelso's Choices
What is the difference between a "small" problem and a "big" problem?
A small problem is one you can try solving on your own. A big problem is when you need to find an adult for help.
What is square breathing?
Make a square with your finger. Breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, breathe out for 4 seconds, and rest for 4 seconds.
What is a synonym for the word "mad."
angry, irritated, frustrated, etc.
What is a word that means working together to come up with a solution?
Compromise
Give two examples your group feels are good "friendship maker" qualities.
Answers vary. Examples: honesty, trust, fairness, caring, etc.
Is this a small or big problem:
You and a classmate disagree about the rules of a game. You have tried to talk it out and to make a deal, but both of you are angry and just want to play the game.
This is a big problem. You have tried to at least use two of Kelso's Choices, but they are not working. It's time to pause, cool off and ask an adult for help.
Name two ways you can cool off when you feel angry.
Take a break outside, get a sip of water, use a breathing technique, draw a picture, read a story, etc.
What is an antonym for the word "sad?"
happy, joyful, excited, etc.
What can you do if someone on the playground looks like they are upset?
You can ask them kindly if they would like to play or help them find an adult to talk to.
How are hurtful words like trying to put toothpaste back in the tube?
Hurtful words sometimes can't be undone, just like it's very hard to put toothpaste back into the tube.
You and friends want to play tag at recess. Name two things you can do to decide who is "it" first.
Rock,Paper,Scissors
Make a deal- first me for 5 minutes then you for 5 minutes
Other ideas?
What should you always do ahead of time if you need to take a short break outside the classroom?
Tell your teacher you are taking a break outside.
What is one positive feeling you can have after practicing mindfulness?
calm, focused, present
True or False: If there is a big problem at recess and you need an adult to help you, you should first tell your teacher right away when you go back to class.
False. You should find a yard duty right away during recess to help you solve the problem.
How did the girl in the story, "My Secret Bully" feel when her friend began treating her differently at school than she did when they were alone together?
She felt confused, upset, sick to her stomach, etc.
Someone is spreading a rumor about you, and you are frustrated. What are two Kelso's Choices you can use to help solve the problem?
First, take a breath and cool off. Then...
Talk it out, tell them to stop, ignore it, or if it is a big problem, ask a trusted adult to help you.
Name two "blaming" words or phrases that you should not use when stating a problem.
Examples: always, never, because of you, etc.
Instead of saying, "You always boss me around," make an "I" statement using this sentence frame below:
"I feel _________ when you __________ and I want ___________."
I feel frustrated when you tell me what to do and I want you to ask me what I think.
What are two words that mean our faces communicate what we are feeling?
Facial cues or facial expressions
Does is make you feel good to make me feel bad?
What does "confidentiality" mean?
It means, what is said in here should stay in here.
Turn this sentence into an appropriate (non-blaming) message:
"I'm not good at playing soccer."
"Next practice I'm going to ask the coach for help."
What does "mindfulness" mean?
Mindfulness is learning to concentrate on how your body and mind feel at that very moment.
Name three ways people communicate their real thoughts and feelings without speaking.
facial cues, body language, hand gestures, wriitng words down, your "tone of voice"
What is the difference between a "mean moment" and "bullying?"
A mean moment happens once or twice. Bullying happens over and over, the victim has not done anything wrong, the bully has been told to stop, and the they are doing it to gain some power over the victim.