Empathy
What is the word that means "feeling or understanding what someone else is feeling"?
Empathy
What does "respectful communication" mean?
Treating others thoughtfully and considering how they want to be treated.
Why is it important to understand that people may have more than one feeling?
So we can understand each other better. So we don’t get mad at other people. So we can explain our feelings to others.
What are the first two steps in Calming Down?
Stop- use your signal
Name your feeling
The 4 Problem-Solving Steps (letters and what they stand for)
S: Say the problem
T: Think of solutions
E: Explore consequences
P: Pick the best solution
Name 2 ways that you can tell how someone is feeling.
Facial expressions, body language, tone of voice
When someone is giving a sincere compliment, list 2 behaviors that show it is sincere.
Eye contact, facing the person, kind tone of voice.
Why do we practice these skills?
To get better; to help the skills stick in your brain.
Give an example of a personal "stop signal" a student could use to apuse when they feel strong emotions.
Stop, hang on, cool off, hold it, wait a minute, etc.
Being calm helps you gather facts and choose safe, respectful solutions rather than reacting on immediate uncomfortable emotions.
If a friend is sad because their brother can't visit, give one thing you could say and one thing you could do to show compassion.
Say: "I'm sorry your brother can't visit. I know you were looking forward to it"
Do: Invite them to play or make a card/letter for their brother.
Give a short sentence you could say to accept a compliment politely.
Thank you! Said politely with a friendly tone.
Give one example of a classroom rule that helps everyone be respectful to one another.
Listen when others are talking, take turn, use your manners
Name 3 ways to calm down after you stop and name your feeling.
Belly breathing, counting, positive self-talk.
You broke a friend's toy by accident. Using the Problem-Solving Steps, write one possible safe and respectful solution and a positive and negative consequence that go with it.
Solution: apologize and offer to replace or share toys.
Consequence: (p) the friend may forgive you; (n) the teacher may make you replace it or walk at recess.
Explain why it helps to "walk in someone's shoes" when you disagree with them.
Helps you understand the other person's feelings and their point of view to help get rid of conflict.
When a friend is upset, what is one assertive question you could ask to find out more or how you could help?
I noticed you looked upset. Are you okay? I'm here if you want to talk about it.
Describe how noticing similarities and differences helps you make friends.
Finding similarities helps you connect; noticing differences helps you respect others and understand them better.
Explain why naming your feeling helps your thinking part of the brain. (Think amygdala and cortex)
Naming the feeling helps slow the amygdala and lets the thinking cortex engage so you can pick a safe response.
What does "making amends" mean?
Making amends mean doing something to make up for what you did wrong.
Describe a situation at school where two students might feel differently about the same event, and list 2 respectful ways to respond so both feel understood.
Answers vary.
EX: one student loves noisy games at recess, another prefers quiet games. Respond by asking how they feel and planning times for both activities.
Write a short script (2-3 sentences) showing how to apologize respectfully and offer to make amends after hurting a friend's feelings.
Apology: I'm sorry I called your idea silly. That was mean.
Amends: Can I help with your project to make up for it?
Explain how using empathy and respectful communication will help you complete group work at school.
Use empathy to understand ideas and perspectives; use respectful talk to share thoughts, agree on roles/steps.
Describe a step-by-step plan a student could use when they feel like "jumping to conclusions" about friends laughing. (Use the calm down approach and 1 follow up action)
Stop, name your feeling, calming strategies, and a follow up action.
Two friends planned to play at recess. One student wants to play gaga ball, the other student wants to play basketball. List the problem-solving S-T-E-P that the students can use to solve this problem (two solutions and a consequence for each).
S: friends don't agree on what to play at recess
T: agree on two activities and take turns; set days to play each activity
E: may be hard to take turns with the game the same day for a short amount of time; each person is happy and gets to play their game for all of recess
P: set days to play each activity