Kelso's Choices
When do you use kelso's choices?
To solve a small problem.
What are the 4 zones of regulation?
What is an upstander?
An upstander is someone who takes action and stands up for someone being treated unkindly.
What is respect?
Treating someone or something kindly.
What are some qualities that make a good friend?
Kindness, respect, trust, etc.
What is the difference between a small problem and a big problem?
A small problem you can solve on your own. A big problem you need to get an adult involved.
What does being in the red zone mean?
When your body is out of control.
Please stop doing that, it is unkind.
What are the three areas that we show respect?
Respect myself, respect others, and respect the environment
What does cooperation mean?
Working together to complete a task or goal.
Give an example of how to make a deal if you want to play tag and your friend wants to play soccer.
Let's play tag during morning recess and play soccer during afternoon recess.
How can you tell when someone is in the green zone?
They are calm, happy, focused.
Give an example of how you could distract someone who is being unkind to someone else?
Ask them a silly question, change the subject, ask the person who they are being unkind to if they want to play with you.
Give an example of how you show respect at school.
Following directions, cleaning up, taking care of materials, etc.
How can we show acceptance for those who are different from us?
Be kind, ask them about things they like, include them.
Give an example of talking it out using an I feel statement if you are frustrated that your friend won't let you choose what to play at recess.
I feel frustrated when you don't let me choose what to play at recess. Can we take turns choosing what we do?
What does it mean to be in the yellow zone?
Your body is starting lose control.
Name one strategy to be an upstander that uses confrontation (directly talking to the person being unkind) and one strategy that does not use confrontation.
Confrontation - tell the person to stop
Not confrontation - tell an adult
What does it mean to respect someone's boundaries?
When they say no or express what they need, listening to them.
Give an example of when/how you could have a growth mindset.
When something is difficult, telling myself "I can't do this yet."
Name 7 out of the 9 Kelso's Choices
Walk Away, tell them to stop, make a deal, go to another game, talk it out, apologize, wait and cool off, share and take turns, ignore it
What is a strategy you can use to help you get back to the green zone? (one for every person on the team).
Breathing, reading, talking to a friend, etc.
What is the difference between equality and equity?
Equality means everybody gets the same thing. Equity means everybody gets what they need to be successful.
Give an example for how we show respect to ourselves, others, and the environment?
Treating myself kindly, respecting boundaries, picking up after myself.
What does flexible thinking mean? Provide an example.
When you think of multiple ways to solve a problem. Ex. if your friend and you can't agree on what game to play, you can either compromise or choose another game.