Communication
True or false: if you delete a picture, text, comment, or post, it disappears forever and no one will ever see it again. Explain your answer!
False
This ANT tells you that you can predict what will happen before it occurs.
Fortune teller
When you are having a big emotion, what do you need to do before you can use an effective I Message?
Calm down!
True or false: It is better to try to avoid and ignore painful feelings instead of letting ourselves experience them.
False. No emotion lasts forever, they come and go like waves! Emotions pass faster when we recognize them, name them, and feel them fully.
True or false: If someone makes a face or a mean comment to you, you need to tell your teacher right away. Explain your answer!
False. This is a small problem that you can solve on your own. You can ignore it and walk away, use a tool from your coping skills toolbox if you're feeling mad about it, and/or use an I Message to communicate how you felt and what you need.
This word means the ability to understand and share the feelings of others.
This ANT tells you that you know what people are thinking before they tell you.
Mind reader
Who are the people you can use an I message with? (At least three responses!)
Friends, classmates, teachers, parents, siblings... ANYONE! Family, friends, acquaintances!
What has the biggest influence on our feelings? (Think back to the cycle!)
Our thoughts
True or false: Cyberbullying is against the law, even for minors.
True. Cyberbullying is defined as a pattern (2 or more separate incidents) of harassing or intimidating behavior. It is also defined as sending a message or making a post that threatens someone's safety or means to scare them into thinking they will be harmed.
This is the word that means we are communicating clearly, respectfully, and directly.
Assertive
This ANT tells you that your feelings are somebody else's fault.
Blaming
Name all three parts of an I message
"I feel..."
"because..."
"can you/can we..."
Name at least three of the important physical health needs we must take care of to help our mental health.
Getting enough sleep, drinking enough water, getting exercise, going outside, eating a balanced diet, taking care of our hygiene
How does perspective taking help us resolve conflicts?
When we can see a situation from another person's point of view, we gain a better understanding of what they are feeling, how we impacted them, what they need, and how we can work together toward a solution that works for everyone.
Name three important parts of communication that are missing in text messages and why they are so important for effective communication.
Answers might include: Facial expression, inflection, volume, gestures, body posture and position, eye contact. These are important because they all have a huge impact on the way the meaning of our words are communicated and perceived!
This ANT tells you that you or someone else deserves a title for a single characteristic or mistake.
Labeling
Situation:
You and your friend normally do everything together. For the past week, they haven't been talking to you as much as before.
Make this into an I Message!
Example:
I feel lonely because we haven't spent a lot of time together this week like we used to. Could we hang out at lunch recess tomorrow?
Everyone on your team must share a different example of positive self talk!
If I keep practicing, I’ll get the hang of it! I am proud of who I am! It’s okay if I make a mistake! I can handle this! I worked hard and should be proud of myself! Challenges make my brain stronger! I can’t control everything, I can only control myself! Sometimes things don’t go the way I want them to, but that’s okay! I can use my coping skills to calm myself down!
If someone calls you a mean name, so you call them a name back, is that bullying, a disagreement, a mean moment, a rude moment, or a conflict? Explain your answer!
A conflict
What are at least three ways that we can show active listening?
Nodding, turning our body in the direction of the speaker, looking at the speaker or activity, asking clarifying questions, repeating back what we understand, staying on topic, using verbal responses ("mmhmm", "I see", "no way!"), not multitasking/using phones.
This ANT tells you that everything is ALWAYS one way or another, or NEVER one way or another.
All-or-nothing/black-and-white
Your close friend seemed like they were ignoring you during recess when you tried to talk to them. You feel hurt and worried by this and are wondering if you did something wrong. How would you resolve this conflict?
Act It Out!
"I feel hurt because you didn't say anything back when I tried to talk to you at recess today, and I'm worried that you might be upset with me about something. Could you tell me if something if bothering you?"
Everyone on your team must identify and explain a different coping skill from the coping skills toolbox!
Notice your body/"name it to tame it"; yoga/stretches; ice cube; mindfulness; deep breathings; visual imagery; progressive muscle relaxation; catching our ANTs; listening to music; feelings thermometer; give thanks; small steps/goal ladder; be active; finger maze; grounding; positive self talk
What are at least three things must be true to call a situation "bullying"?
It's hurtful on purpose, one-sided, and happens repeatedly. Also accepted: they have more power (older, bigger, more popular, etc.)