7 Deadly Needs
The habit of probing for information about other people’s lives to satisfy your own curiosity can be dangerous. It often leads to judgments about the people you care about that are not your place to make.
The Need to Know
The overindulgence and overconsumption of anything to the point of waste.
Gluttony
Remember that the person’s feelings are real, whether or not you think those feelings are justified. Respect those feelings, keeping in mind that whatever the person is going through could be the most important event in their life at the moment.
Be Empathic and Nonjudgmental
A Murder of
Crows
Who was the first woman to make a million dollars in the United States?
Madam CJ Walker
This sets up an adversarial relationship between two people. You could consider this need the same as your need to prove someone else wrong. Making a practice of pointing out other people’s mistakes can be detrimental to close relationships.
The Need to be Right
An inordinate desire to acquire or possess more than one needs, especially with respect to material wealth.
Greed or Avarice
Be aware of your position, posture, and proximity when interacting with a person in distress.
Respect Personal Space
A Cackle of
Hyenas
What is considered the largest empire in history?
The Mongol Empire
Revenge is a destructive emotion, especially for the person who seeks it. Seeking revenge puts you in the victim’s role when conflict arises. It forces you to evaluate the situation as a loss for you.
The Need to Get Even
Defined as uncontrolled feelings of anger, rage, and even hatred.
Wrath
Remain calm, rational, and professional.
Keep Your Emotional Brain in Check
A Parliament of
Owls
What was the capital city of the Inca Empire? (Hint* The Emperor's New Groove)
Cusco
In a loving relationship, you’re not in competition with your partner. You’re both striving to be the best individual you can be while working to support the other’s efforts. There’s no real comparison between the unique gifts each of you brings to the relationship.
The Need to Keep Score
Attempts to lower another's reputation; receiving either "joy at another's misfortune" and grief at another's prosperity.
Envy
Watch and listen carefully for the person’s real message. Try saying something like “That must be scary.” Supportive words like these will let the person know that you understand what’s happening—and you may get a positive response.
Focus on Feelings
Lemurs
Famously in GREEK mythology, there is no Hercules, that is is name in ROMAN mythology. What is is GREEK name?
Heracles
_______ is a dangerous idea. No one can truly ______ life, and especially not the actions of someone else. Your attempts to maintain _______ will only breed frustration and disappointment. Relinquish control and accept life as it comes.
The Need to Control
Also known as hubris or futility. It is considered the original and worst of the seven deadly sins on almost every list, usually considered the most demonic.
Pride
It’s important to be thoughtful in deciding which rules are negotiable and which are not.
Choose Wisely What You Insist Upon
A Rhumba of
Rattlesnakes
Modern-day Istanbul, Turkey, used to be called what when it was the capital of the Byzantine Empire?
Constantinople