Out of Bounds
Definition of a Boundary
What is: A line or limit where one thing ends and another begins or a limit that separates acceptable behavior from unacceptable behavior
At what point do you start establishing boundaries before marriage?
What is: Dating, Engagement
Give 6 examples/phrases that establishes boundaries in a conversation.
What is:
"No"
"I disagree"
"I will not"
"I choose not to"
"It's wrong"
"Stop"
"Those are my 'No No' squares"
Who is the Chef that trademarked the phrase "Flavortown"?
Who is: Guy Fieri
At what point in the sales cycle do you establish boundaries?
What is: The very first time you speak to a client.
Name an Olympic sport that reduces points for going out of bounds.
What is: Gymnastics
In gymnastics, stepping out of bounds, either with one or both feet, results in a penalty, reducing a gymnast's final score.
How many cats does Stiglets have?
What is: 2
True or False: It is unprofessional to say "No" to a task outside your job description.
What is: False
Who is the COO of Realpage?
Who is: Vinit Doshi
How do you set a boundary before a demo?
What is: Send an Agenda
Name another profession that needs to set boundaries early on to be successful or they will be run over for 10 months.
Hint: Someone in this room has been in this profession before.
What is: Teacher
Boy meets girl, they get married.
They have kids.
They both work.
Husband goes to work comes home and is tired.
Wife quits job stays home with kids and maintains the house.
Husband gets home.
Wife needs a break.
Wife needs help with kids.
Husband is exhausted leaves all housework and childcare to wife. Wife gets exhausted.
Wife starts nagging husband about everything that needs to be done.
Husband starts resenting wife because he doesn’t get time to herself.
Wife starts resenting husband because he won't help/listen when she needs support.
Who is at fault?
What is: Both of them.
By not estabishing boundaries early on in the relationship, they both need to work on sharing with the other what they are willing to do or not willing to tolerate.
At what age do you start establishing boundaries with your child when you become a parent?
What is: The day they are born.
Examples
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Total number of kids between the entire team.
What is: 8
True or False: Not checking emails/Teams message after work hours is establishing a boundary.
What is: True
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True or False: Setting boundaries is a choice.
What is: True
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"Respond, don't ______."
What is: React.
Why DON'T people set boundaries?
What is:
Fear of hurting other persons feelings
Fear of being shamed
Fear of abandonment
Fear of someone else's anger
Fear how you are being viewed
Fear of punishment
True or False: The reason you set boundaries is so the other person will not cross those lines.
What is: False You set boundaries so you know what lines YOU will not cross. It's not for others.
Dr. Cloud uses a house in a neighborhood and "property" as an example.
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Where is the Club Destination in 2026?
What is: Italy?
Red Bull
Name an outdoor sport that does NOT consider the "Out of Bounds Rule."
What is: Ultimate Frisbee
What are the 2 biggest reasons people get divorced?
What is:
Finances and Communication
Who is the moviestar that is known for doing his own stunts in movies, avid scientologist and setting firm boundaries in red carpet interviews?
Who is: Tom Cruise
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True: Boundaries equal safety.
What is: True
Boundaries create routine and a way to protect your emotional and physical harm.
What is the name of the social media app that allows users to create short-form videos set to music?
What is: Tik Tok