Self-Esteem
What are some ways you can practice positivity?
Use positive affirmations, keep a gratitude journal, use positive self-talk, and practice self-compassion.
True or False: Healthy coping skills work instantly and don't require practice.
False. Coping skills can take time and hard work to be effective.
What other emotions can be underlying anger?
Fear, sadness, frustration, embarrassment, pain, jealousy, insecurity, hunger, shame, grief, anxiety, etc
What are the healthy communication styles?
Assertive, active listening, "I" statements, constructive feedback, etc
What is the difference between shame and guilt?
Shame is feeling bad about who you are while guilt is feeling bad about what you've done.
If you have low self-esteem, how do you think abot yourself in relation to others?
You think you are inferior, have difficulty with relationships, or think of yourself more negatively than others.
Name 3 unhealthy coping skills
Engaging in risky behaviors, substance abuse, avoidance, procrastination, negative thinking patterns, social withdrawal, unhealthy eating patterns, aggression, self-harm, etc
What happens in the body when someone enters fight or flight mode?
Heart rate increases, muscles tense, adrenaline releases, rapid breathing, decreased bodily function, sweating, etc
Name one unhealthy communication behavior.
Blaming, sarcasm, ignoring, eye rolling, stonewalling, defensiveness, denying, etc
You said something hurtful to a friend during an argument. How can you address this guilt?
Apologize, explain your emotions, give the other person time, and work to repair relationship
If you have low self-esteem, how do you feel about trying new things and reaching your goals?
You may not be motivated to try new things or avoid doing so. You doubt your ability to reach goals or quit before trying.
Name 3 healthy coping skills.
Reading, journaling, listening to music, exercising, meditation, and etc
Why do some people avoid talking about emotions?
Fear, not knowing how to express them, and past experiences
"Whatever. I don't care."
"I guess you're too busy for me."
"I'm feeling frustrated. Can we talk about it calmly?"
"Hey, can we schedule a time to talk?"
How can shame impact your self-esteem?
Shame can lower self-esteem by making you feel unworthy or inadequate.
What is healthy self-esteem?
Healthy self-esteem is having an accurate and balanced self view where you recognize and accept your abilities/flaws, strengths/weaknesses, and have realistic expectations of yourself and others.
Deep breathing, challenging unhelpful thoughts, grounding techniques, distractions, exercise, STOP skill, etc
Why can strong emotions make it harder to think clearly?
The emotional brain becomes more active than the logical brain
You're agreeing with someone just to avoid conflict even though you disagree. What's happening?
Avoiding conflict & emotions, porous boundaries, passive communication, people pleasing, etc
You forgot to complete a task at work leading to a problem. What should you do to address the situation?
Accept that mistakes happen, take responsibility, inform your supervisor, and work on a solution to fix problem
What are some potential causes of low self-esteem?
Some potential causes of low self-esteem include negative childhood experiences, cultural or societal influences, unhealthy relationships, ongoing stressful life events or trauma, engaging in negative self talk or self-criticism, maladaptive coping skills, and ruminating on negative thoughts.
You get into a fight with your friend. How will you deescalate the conflict?
Taking a break, "I" statements, active listening, focus on situation rather than individual, constructive feedback, etc
What is one emotional experience someone might have after being repeatedly criticized by others?
Shame, insecurity, self-doubt, and defensiveness
What is aggressive communication and how can we reframe it?
Blaming, yelling, insulting, pointing fingers, invading personal space, sarcasm, dominating conversation, etc
Reframe: Express your needs, use honesty, putting yourself in other person's shoes, being respectful, etc
How do self-critical beliefs affect people?
Internalize negative beliefs, focus on mistakes repeatedly, noticing only personal flaws, feeling unaccepted and unloved.