Big Feelings
If I yell when I am frustrated....then what might happen?
Then people may get defensive, I could get in trouble, and the problem might get worse.
If I talk about my friend behind their back…
Then trust is broken and I could lose the friendship.
If I don’t turn in homework…
Then my grade drops and I feel more stressed later.
If I post without thinking…
Then I could hurt someone or damage my reputation.
If I say “I’m bad at this”…
Then I feel discouraged and may stop trying.
If I walk away and take 3 breaths when I’m angry…
Then I calm down, think clearly, and handle it better.
If I hear gossip and don’t repeat it…
The the drama stops with me and people trust me more.
If I ask for help…
Then I understand better and improve my grade.
If I compare myself to others online…
Then I might feel insecure or not good enough.
If I say “I’m still learning”…
Then I stay motivated and keep improving.
If hold my feelings in all day…
Then I might explode later, feel stressed, or shut down.
If I send a mean text when I’m mad…
Then it can escalate fast and screenshots last forever.
If I copy answers…
Then I risk consequences and don’t actually learn.
If I pause before responding…
Then I avoid drama and make a better choice.
If I focus only on what went wrong…
Then I feel defeated and miss what went right.
If I say calmly, “I feel disrespected”…
Then the other person understands me better and we can solve it.
If I apologize sincerely…
Then trust can begin to rebuild and the friendship might heal.
If I use a planner and stay organized…
Then I’m less stressed and more prepared.
If I post something positive…
Then I can influence others in a good way.
If I notice one thing I did well…
Then I build confidence and resilience.
If I assume someone meant to embarrass me…
Then I might overreact or damage the relationship.
Better “then”: If I ask for clarification… then I might find out it was a misunderstanding.
If I feel left out and say nothing…
Then I may feel resentful or more isolated.
Healthier choice: If I calmly tell my friend how I feel… then they might include me or explain.
If I give up after one mistake…
Then I stop improving.
Growth mindset “then”: If I try again… then I get better over time.
If I join in teasing online…
Then I contribute to bullying and it could follow me long term.
If I believe one mistake defines me…
Then I limit myself.
Healthier thought: One mistake is feedback, not my identity.