General Safety
Name two trusted adults
caregiver, teacher, therapist, coach, police, doctor, CPS, adult relatives, nurse, firefighter, etc.
Name three sexual behavior rules
Come on y'all...We know these
Give three examples of things you should not share online
address, phone number, location, images of yourself, school, images of others without their permission, full name, birthday, weekend plans
Josh's Private Parts were kicked during a football game. The doctor is looking at Josh to see if he is okay. The coach is with Josh. Are any sexual behavior rules being Broken?
This is an exception to the sexual behavior rules, because Josh is in need of medical attention and a safe adult is supervising. If Josh felt uncomfortable he could ask for additional support of some kind.
True
Name an exception to looking and touching sexual behavior rules
If you are in need of medical attention and a doctor needs to look at your private part to make sure you are safe.
OR
If you need help with hygiene and a safe adult provides that support without you feeling uncomfortable or unsafe.
What are the three questions to ask as part of the "think" step in the STOP steps
- Is it going to break a rule
- Will it hurt someone or something
- What will the consequences be?
What should you do if someone uses sexual language or send inappropriate pictures online?
No, Go, Tell
When would you Stop to use STOP steps and What rule(s) are being broken?
An older boy has joined Sam's group of friends. One day after school, he shows Sam and his friends a set of pictures. All the people in the pictures are naked.
Stop and use STOP steps after he shows pictures.
It's not okay to look at other people's private parts and it's not okay to make others uncomfortable with your sexual behavior.
True or False: Adults need a good reason to touch your private parts
True
What should you do if someone broke the sexual behavior rules with you OR you feel unsafe with an adult.
Use NO, GO, TELL
Name a time you used the STOP steps in the last week
Better be a real example...
What should you do if someone online asks you to meet in person?
If you only know this person online, you should not meet in person. We can use no, go, tell or the STOP steps to make a good choice and stay safe
Your swim coach offers to give you private lessons after practice. He insists it's a secret between the two of you. This makes you feel uncomfortable. What should you do?
No, Go, Tell.
Maybe use the Stop steps if you need help making a good choice?
True or False: If you tell an adult that someone touched your private parts and they do not believe you, then you should just keep it a secret
False
What should you do if you tell an adult that someone broke a sexual behavior rule with you and they don't listen or help?
Go to another safe adult.
Give an example of a relaxation skill and a time you could use it
Serious answers only
Are you in trouble if someone else sends you a sexual message that you did not ask for
You are NOT in trouble. But we still need to tell an adult so it is appropriately handled because we CAN get in trouble for having images of minors on our devices, even if it is of ourselves.
Elizabeth uses a wheelchair and needs help to get out of the wheelchair and into the school chair. Elizabeth's teacher helps her and often pats her bottom while doing so. Is a sexual behavior rule being broken? What can Elizabeth do?
Yes! The touching rule is being broken and Elizabeth can use No, Go, Tell.
True or False: Using the STOP steps helps us keep the sexual behavior rules
True!
What can you do if you feel uncomfortable with the exceptions to the looking and touching sexual behavior rules?
You are allowed to speak up every time you feel uncomfortable. You can have an adult teach you how to use a medication or clean up after yourself so that you don't need as much adult support.
What is the difference between positive peer pressure and negative peer pressure?
Positive peer pressure is when someone is encouraged to make a good choice and negative peer pressure is when someone is encouraged to make an unhelpful choice.
What should you do if you witness online bullying.
Speak up and keep your friends in check! We can use positive peer pressure and avoid gossiping to prevent this from occurring.
You could tell a trusted adult depending on the severity (they aren't as uptight as you think)
Sarah is ten years old and is staying with Auntie Pam. Sarah is having a bath and Auntie Pam comes into the bathroom and says she needs to help Sarah take the bath. Sarah is feeling uncomfortable and doesn't think she needs help.
Use the STOP steps after her auntie says she is going to help with the bath. Technically Auntie Pam is not breaking a rule, but Sarah can communicate that she is feeling uncomfortable and can bathe herself.
True or false: It is NEVER the child's fault if they are unable to stop or prevent someone breaking a sexual behavior rule with them
True: It is the adult's responsibility to keep children safe which is why telling a safe adult is so important!