How to Accept NO
True or False:
When an authority figure "No, because I said so," it is okay to NOT listen to them since they did not give a valid reason why.
FALSE! Even though the "no" may be unfair, it is still important to respect and listen to your authority figure.
True or False:
It takes time and practice to stay calm and use proper techniques when told "No."
TRUE!
It is not something that happens over night, it takes lots of time and practice to stay calm when in a frustrating situation.
True or False:
When accepting no it is important to be aggressive when talking to the authority figure.
FALSE!
you should stay calm
When accepting "no"which what should you do?
A) look at the person
B) say 'OKAY'
C) stay calm
D) All of the above
D) All of the above
- Count to five
- Take a deep breath and let the air out slowly
- Tell the teacher/parent you need a minute to cool off
Are all strategies to use when you feel upset.
Yes
If you are a parent what is one rule you would make for your children about schoolwork?
Example(s):
- You cannot watch TV until your homework is finished
- Try your best
- Get your homework handed in on time
When Accepting 'NO' you should always say "NOT FAIR" FIRST.
TRUE OR FALSE
FALSE. You can say "okay" or you can ask if you can know why.
Which is NOT one of the strategies for staying calm?
A) Take a deep breath and let the air out slowly
B) kicking the wall
C) Listening to music
D) Picture yourself calming down
B) kicking the wall
List 3 problems that may arise if you did not accept "No" in a calm manner.
Examples:
- Consequences
- You may feel bad on how you handled the situation
- Authority figure may be more likely to say no if you are not being mature
- Less independence
When the other person is explaining why they said "NO" you should use your whole body listening?
True or False
TRUE. In order to understand why, you need to pay close attention.
You ask your mom if you can stay up past bedtime and she replies, "No, you need to go to sleep now or you won't get to watch TV tomorrow." What is the best response to say back to your mom?
A) yell "Grrrr, this is unfair!."
B) "How come RJ's mom lets him stay up late?"
C) "Okay, I understand."
C!
Saying okay or I understand (or both) is an effective way to handle the situation.
You want to go on a bike ride at night but your mom said "no, its too dangerous". Do you think that is a fair reason or not?
It is fair. At night cars might not see you.
Maybe mom can't come with you.
etc
What are the steps to accepting "No" for an answer:
A) Look at the person. Say ok.
B) Make a fist. Walk away.
C) Stay calm. If you disagree, ask later.
D) A and C
D) A and C
You want to buy a candy bar but your dad said "No, you already had too much candy today". What can you do?
a) take deep breaths
b) lay on the floor
c) huff and puff
a) take deep breaths
On a scale of 1-10 please rate yourself on how well you think you accept "No," and give a reason why you rated yourself the way you did.
No wrong answer, as long as you answered the question.