Authority Figures
Who is NOT an example of an Authority figure:
A) Principle
B) Lifeguard
C) Parent
D) Friend
D) Friend
True or False:
When an authority figure "No, because I said so," it is okay to not listen to them since they did not give a valid reason why.
FALSE! Even though the "no" may be unfair, it is still important to respect and listen to your authority figure.
True or False:
It takes time and practice to stay calm and use proper techniques when told "No."
It is not something that happens over night, it takes lots of time and practice to stay calm when in a frustrating situation.
True or False:
When accepting no it is important to be passive aggressive when talking to the authority figure.
FALSE!
It is important to be assertive when talking to an authority figure.
True or False:
Canadians say "sorry" so much that a law was passed in 2009 declaring that an apology can't be used as evidence of admission to guilt.
TRUE!
Sometimes authority figures must enforce the rules by saying "No." Which of the following is a situation where an authority figure may say no.
A) My mother won't let me go to the washroom
B) My teacher won't let me sit in my desk
C) My father said I cannot go out on a school night
D) My cousin told me I cannot stay up past 10 pm
C) My father said I cannot go out on a school night
When accepting "no" in a mature manner which is the most important thing to do?
A) Say "okay" or to walk away
B) Proper body language (eye contact, sitting up straight, arms at your side, etc.)
C) Follow the authority's decison
D) A & B
E) All of the above
E) All of the above
- Shows maturity
- less likley to be punished/consequences
- better chance of them saying no next time (although they may still say no next time, depending what it is)
- shows you respect and understand where they are coming from
You ask the principal if you can get out of your detention, and he says "No." List two calming techniques you can use when upset.
Examples:
- Count to five
- Take a deep breath and let the air out slowly
- Tell the principle you need a minute to cool off
If you are a parent what is one rule you would make for your children about schoolwork?
Example(s):
- You cannot watch TV until your homework is finished
- Try your best
- Get your homework handed in on time
What letters do NOT appear in the periodic table:
A) J & Q
B) I & Q
C) J & I
D) J & Z
A) J & Q do not appear in the periodic table
What might happen if there were no rules?
A) Children would take over the world
B) The world would be a chaotic place to live in
C) The world would come to an end
D) Parents would take over the governments position and run the world
B) The world would be chaotic place to live in
All Cops Can Run Fast was the acronym used to remember the 5 steps in when accepting "NO" in a mature way. What is another acronym you can use instead?
Example(s):
- All Cows Carry Red Flags
- Apes Can Cook Red Fish
Using acronym's is a study tool that is used to help you remember important information.
In your handout, which is NOT one of the 5 suggest techniques for staying calm?
A) Take a deep breath and let the air out slowly
B) Walk away for a few seconds
C) Listening to music
D) Picture yourself calming down
C) Listening to music
Although listening to music may be a technique to help you stay calm, it is not listed in the handbook as one of the 5 calming techniques you can use.
List 3 problems that may arise if you did not accept "No" in a mature manner.
Examples:
- Consequences
- You may feel bad on how you handled the situation
- Authority figure may be more likely to say no if you are not being mature
- Less independence
True or False:
Violin bows are commonly made from buffalo hair.
FALSE!
They are commonly made from horse hair.
List two (2) rules you have to follow at a grocery store.
1) Do not steal the food
2) Do not eat while you are shopping
3) Do not abandon your cart
4) Do not leave items in random places when you change your mind
What does the R (step #4) stand for in the skill steps for accepting "No" in a mature way?
A) Respond
B) Respect
C) React
D) Rethink
A) Respond
One should respond by saying "OK," or don't say anything at all.
You ask your coach if you can leave practice 20 minutes early and he says, "No, you need to stay until the end or you might not get to play in the game tomorrow." What is the best response to say back to your coach?
A) "Jokes on you I didn't want to play in tomorrows game anyways."
B) "Well how come Josh got to leave 20 minutes early?"
C) "Okay, I understand."
D) "K." - insert eye roll
C!
Saying okay or I understand (or both) is an effective way to handle the situation.
Your best friend Sally wants her mom to drive you and her to the movies, however Sally's mom says "No," and starts to give her reasons why she can't take you guys to the movies. As Sally's mom is listing the reasons, Sally is rolling her eyes, interrupting her mother, and complaining about how unfair she is. List three (3) ways how Sally could have handled the situation better.
Examples:
- Not rolled her eyes and instead make proper eye contact
- Listen to what her mom had to say instead of interrupting
- Say "Ok" and/or walk away
- Use a calming technique
True or False:
Movie trailers were originally shown after the movie, which is why they were called "trailers."
TRUE!
Hayley is a student nurse. Is she an authority figure? Please explain.
Hayley is an authority to figure to the students (you guys), however she is not an authority figure to the staff.
What does each letter stand for?
Hint: 5 skill steps for accepting "No" in a mature way!
A =
C =
C =
R =
F =
A = Authority
C = Calm
C = Consequences
R = Respond
F = Follow
Each member of your team go around and tell me one technique you use to calm down when being told "No."
Examples:
- Listening to music
- Play with my dog/cat
- Count to five before saying/doing anything
On a scale of 1-10 please rate yourself on how well you think you accept "No," and give a reason why you rated yourself the way you did.
No wrong answer, as long as you answered the question.
What type of phobia is Erythrophobia?
It is the fear of blushing.