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Trying to fix, manage, and control
What is Fmac'ing
Disrespecting a person, place, or thing
What is disrespect
Not being responsible for belongings or cleaning up after yourself
What is lack of responsible living
Not putting forth effort in your daily obligations
What is no sense of obligation
Not leading by example
What is lack of leadership
Breaking standards or guidelines
What is not following standards or guidelines
Not giving your recovery your all
What is lack of interest in your recovery
Doing for others when they should be doing for themselves
What is enabling
Getting into someone's business, swerving our of your lane, can be referred to as ear hustling
What is medaling
Not holding an accountability when you see it, allowing others to stay sick
What is condoning
Doing wrong when you think no one is looking
What is lack of integrity
Acting as if you are the only one that matters, not being considerate of other people, places, and things
What is inconsideration of others
Gossip or bad/negative talking
What is toxic talk
Taking ownership attitude of things that are not yours. Claiming ownership over objects, people, or places that are not yours to own
What is ownership attitude
Giving excuses
What is justification
No goals, desire, or willingness, simply don't want to do anything
What is lack of motivation
Acting as if still in the madness, not recovery, perceived as sneaky behavior. Perception is everything
What is old behaviors
Searching/seeking for accountabilities to give
Head-hunting
Doing or saying whatever you must in order to get what you think you need or want
What is manipulation
Making excuses for another when they are held accountable
What is rescuing
"Mom and popping", seeking different answers in attempts to get the answers you want
What is triangulation
Doing the same thing over and over not learning from mistakes
What is lack of time perspective
Seeing an accountability and asking someone else to hold it
What is 3rd party accountability
Giving a proper response followed by arguing and complaining
What is zero-state
Assuming without research or facts
What is contempt prior to investigation