Discoverer
What is identity?
Who you are, how you perceive yourself, how others perceive you, individual traits or values
What does it mean to be disconnected in a relationship?
Feeling distant from the person you care about, having an argument or disagreement without repair, feeling uncertain about where the relationship stands
What do the bus passengers represent?
Our advisor thoughts, sometimes helpful, sometimes not
In the game of life and in real life do we always get to pick what happens to us or how our life goes?
No
Core- who you are always, chosen- things about your identity you chose, given- things about your identity you can't change
Jealously, confusion, sadness, fear, worry, etc.
What does the bus/bus driver represent?
Ourselves and our brains moving in the direction we want to go
Name one of the items that we reflected on in our future plans
Family, career, activities, belongings, mental health, physical health, etc.
Give an example of a "core" identity
Name a positive advisor thought you can have when navigating disconnection in relationships
"Maybe they're having a hard time", "I should talk to them", "I recognize I'm upset, I need to take a moment"
What is a helpful advisor thought or helpful bus passenger if you're navigating a new situation? (i.e. first day of school, new activity, etc.)
"I'm nervous, but I can do hard things"
How can our values help us reach our life goals?
They can help us make decisions and know what is important to us
Give an example of a "chosen" identity
Personal interests- style, music, friendships, activities
In B.O.L.D. what does "listen to what you care about mean"
Check in with your values on how you want to navigate the disconnection in the relationship, based on what I am observing
What is an unhelpful advisor thought or bus passenger if were navigating something new?
This is too scary; I won't be able to make it through. I should just give up.
Name one value you chose that was important to you in achieving your goals
Many answers
Give an example of a "given" identity
Genetics- height, skin tone, biological parents, body composition
B stands for what in the B.O.L.D. skill?
Breathe- Take a pause
How can we manage our advisor thoughts/bus passengers?
Name one value listed by someone else that was important to helping them achieve their goals
Many answers