Coping Strategies
Situation: I am feeling like I am in the Yellow Zone (frustrated). What is a good coping strategy I can use to get back to green?
What is taking a deep breath?
What is counting to 10?
What is taking a break?
What is talking to someone about my problem?
I really want cheeseburgers for dinner, but my mom wants pizza. How can I compromise?
Take turns. Have pizza tonight and cheeseburgers next time.
Make a cheeseburger pizza.
I was in the middle of an important test and the tip of my pencil broke. How big is this problem and can I fix it?
A little problem. Not even really a problem.
Easy to fix. It only affects me. Get another pencil. Sharpen my pencil.
If I make good choices, I'm probably going to have a better day than if I make poor choices.
Well my first plan didn't work out (my Plan A), what do I do now?
Have a Plan B!
Situation: I'm feeling pretty bummed out and I'm in the Blue Zone. What are some things I can do to get back to green?
Listen to music, read a book, play a game, exercise, take a nap.
My best friend and I are getting ready to play some video games together. I really want to play Mario Kart but he really wants to play Spiderman.
Compromise! How can we compromise in this situation?
There is a 6.0 level earthquake. How big is this problem?
How many people does it affect?
How long will it take to fix?
If you remember from our What Should Danny Do? book. At what point did his choices start impacting his day?
From his very first choice (using a different plate for pancakes).
There was an invention we spoke about that James Wright came up with but he gave up on it. Peter Hodgson decided to do something else with that invention and it's still popular today. What was that invention?
Putty
Situation: I am in the Red Zone! What can I do to get back to the green zone?
Take a break
Walk away
Scream into a pillow/beat up a pillow
Deep breaths
Ice cream.
I fell down and broke my arm.
Medium problem.
Only affects me.
Will heal if I take care of it.
Might start as a big problem but can be made into a medium problem.
It was my job to take care of the dishes. I didn't feel like doing them. When my mom asked me to do them, I started screaming and yelling and stomped off to my room. What might happen if I make this choice?
Consequences
When I get STUCK on something, how can I get unstuck?
Plan B's
Compromise
Be flexible
Make a different choice
What are the best coping strategies that you've found work for you?
Whatever works for KC!
True or False: Compromise means having to give in to what someone else wants or making someone do what I want to do.
False! Compromise is finding a way that each person can get a little bit of what they want so everyone can be happy.
How can I make a problem that feels big, small?
I might be really upset about something but I can use a coping strategy
I can find a solution
I can change my thinking
Be flexible
Remember the Kid President video who talked about our choices? How can I make sure to make good choices?
Stop and Think first
Think about the consequences
What can I do when what I really want just isn't possible?
Be flexible
Make another choice
Make a compromise
Use a coping strategy
True or False: As long as I'm in the Red Zone, it's okay for me to threaten someone or to beat them up.
FALSE! There are lots of better coping strategies to use.
I want something that's really big and expensive. But we don't have the money for it right now. What is a compromise that can be made?
Wait until birthday or Christmas
Come up with an alternative.
You were playing a video game and it shut down without being able to save your progress. How big is the problem?
Little to medium depending on how much progress I lost.
True or False: My choices, actions, and behaviors don't impact anyone else. Just me.
False! My choices can impact those around me.
Situation: I really wanted to go to my friend's house to play but he's grounded. How can I be flexible?
Play with another friend
Go to his house another day
Help him make better choices