View yourself as a victim. Used when trying to defend yourself. Trying to gain the sympathy of others.
What is Victim Stance
100
Think the world is out to get you and you are a victim of bad luck.
What is Self-Pity Stance
100
Used by addicts and alcoholics to keep themselves unaware of the harmful consequences of their use
What is Denial
100
misleading others by hiding the truth or telling half-truths
What is Lying by Omission
200
Because something happened once or twice, it must always be true. Prejudice is another example of this
What is Overgeneralization
200
Do not think into the future. Believe instant gratification.
What is Lack of Time Perspective
200
See yourself as different and special. Also think you are always right and have difficulty admitting mistakes.
What is Unique Person Stance
200
Planned behavior strategies and approaches intended to achieve a goal.
What are Tactics
200
distorting the truth by fudging details, being intentionally uncertain of details. Answering questions with wishy-washy generalities.
What is Being Deliberately Vague
300
You treat feelings as facts
What is Emotional Reasoning
300
Focusing on what is exciting, not caring about what is responsible. Avoid taking time to think about consequences.
What is Seek Excitement First
300
Boundary issues. One way property rights. "What's mine is mine and what's yours is mine."
What is Ownership Stance
300
Viewing your motives and intentions as always "good" on some level.
What is Sentimentality
Will accept "Good Person" Stance
300
Trying to fly under the radar. Try to blend in to avoid being noticed or challenged.
What is Staying Silent to Avoid Notice
400
You focus on the specifics of an event but do not get the message behind the situation.
What is Concrete Thinking
400
Very fearful but doesn't want anyone to know. 4 parts to this Pattern.
What is Fear of Exposure
400
Lie, Cheat, Steal, tell half-truths.
What is Use of Deceit to Control
400
Powerful and persistent idea or feeling that demands almost all your attention.
What is Obsession
400
Passive resistance, no commitment. An attempt to con the therapists into thinking you're doing work and making changes
What is False Compliance
500
You only pay attention to the situation outside of you vs. you can see everyone's part in a situation.
What is Actor vs. Observer
500
Selfishness, manipulating others into getting what you want. In your face verbal or physical threats.
What is Use of Power to Control
500
Fear of self-knowledge. Excessive or inappropriate trust, addict pride and zero state.
What is Fear of Exposure
500
The body's increasing resistance to the effects of a drug that results from frequent use over time.
What is Tolerance
500
Begins in your mind as a way to block out thoughts of your wrongdoing and deny the full extent of the harm you have caused others.
Instead of denying what you did, you attempt to make it seem insignificant.