Definitions
An emotional state induced by displeasure. This emotion occurs when we do not like what someone did or we feel an injustice has occurred.
Anger.
Only some people experience anger.
False.
This tool helps us to recognize our anger and know how we can best deal with it.
Anger thermometer.
Noticing your anger.
High levels of anger.
Rage/fuming/boiling.
Loss of control, in which we act out our anger.
Aggression.
Anger is usually a secondary emotion
True
Be Honest With Yourself
Be aware of how your anger shows itself
Think about how anger affects others
Identify and implement coping strategies
Walking away, imagery, deep breathing, distraction games.
Cooling down.
Taking a pause
The emotion I feel, when I am angry with you.
hurt/disappointment/let down/disrespected
Turning anger on myself, via blaming myself, feeling guilty, bad, anxious, or sad.
Internalizing my anger.
The thoughts I have can increase or decrease my anger levels.
True.
What are 2 examples of unhelpful ways to deal with anger.
Varying examples
Collaborating and compromising with the other person, or setting a boundary in order to protect yourself.
Problem solving.
Increased heart rate, increased body temperature, sweaty, shallow breathing, increased blood pressure.
Physical signs of anger.
Taking responsibility for my emotions and experience through using I statements, "I am having the thoughts that you don't care. When I think this, I feel sad."
Assertiveness.
Feeling anger, makes me an "angry person."
False, it makes me a person.
Being able to own my role in the conflict, and my side of the street, regardless of what the other person is doing.
Taking responsibility.
When I feel angry about something that someone else did, I have to deal with this, outside of trying to get the other person to change their behavior to make me feel better. Is this statement correct or incorrect & why?
Anger is my responsibility.
"They did me wrong."
"This isn't fair."
"I will get them back"
What are these examples of?
Thoughts while feeling angry.
Wanting to "hit" someone back with our behaviors or words when we are angry at someone. (not answering the phone when we are angry with someone when we are able to answer, intentionally not doing what someone asked when we are angry with them)
Expressing your anger is the only way to deal with it.
False, we can deal with our anger on our own if needed.
Picturing something that is cooling or soothing such as myself jumping into cool water, being in the snow, or laying on a beach.
Imagery to cool down.
Be honest with _______ first.
Yourself.
When I deal with my anger through aggression and then feel badly about my behaviors. I feel ___.
Guilt or shame