Definitions
An emotional state induced by displeasure. This emotion occurs when we do not like what someone did or we feel an injustice has occurred.
What is anger.
Only some people experience anger.
What is false.
This tool helps us to recognize our anger and know how we can best deal with it.
What is an anger thermometer.
Noticing your anger.
What is the first step to dealing with your anger.
What is rage/fuming/boiling.
Loss of control, in which we act out our anger.
What is aggression.
Anger can only be a secondary emotion.
What is false.
When a goal is being blocked, my well being is threatened, or the well being of someone I loved is threatened.
What is anger as the primary emotion.
Walking away, imagery, diaphragmatic breathing, distraction games.
What is cooling down.
The emotion I feel, when I am angry with you.
What is hurt/disappointment/let down.
Turning anger on myself, via blaming myself, feeling guilty, bad, anxious, or sad.
What is internalizing my anger.
The thoughts I have can increase or decrease my anger levels.
What is true.
What are 2 examples of unhelpful ways to deal with anger.
What is (varying examples).
Collaborating and compromising with the other person, or setting a boundary in order to protect yourself.
What is problem solving.
Increased heart rate, increased body temperature, sweaty, shallow breathing, increased blood pressure.
What are physical signs of anger.
Taking responsibility for my emotions and experience through using I statements, "I am having the thoughts that you don't care. When I think this, I feel sad."
What is assertiveness.
Feeling anger, makes me an "angry person."
What is false, it makes me a person.
Being able to own my role in the conflict, and my side of the street, regardless of what the other person is doing.
What is taking responsibility.
When I feel angry about something that someone else did, I have to deal with this, outside of trying to get the other person to change their behavior to make me feel better.
What is anger is my responsibility.
"They did me wrong."
"This isn't fair."
"I will get them back"
What are thoughts while feeling angry.
Wanting to "hit" someone back with our behaviors or words when we are angry at someone. (not answering the phone when we are angry with someone when we are able to answer, intentionally not doing what someone asked when we are angry with them)
What is the action urge for anger.
Expressing your anger is the only way to deal with it.
What is false, we can deal with our anger on our own if needed.
Picturing something that is cooling or soothing such as myself jumping into cool water, being in the snow, or laying on a beach.
What is imagery to cool down.
Once all parties are cool, going back to a disagreement to work through the problem.
What is is assertiveness and problem solving, steps 3 and 4 in 'how to deal with your anger.'
When I deal with my anger through aggression and then feel badly about my behaviors. I feel ___.
What is guilt OR shame.