Understanding Anger
What is one physical change that happens when you get angry, according to the document?
Increased heart rate or blood pressure.
What is the healthiest way to express anger, according to the document?
Expressing it in an assertive, not aggressive manner.
What 90s TV show features a group of six friends living in New York City?
Friends.
What does the 'tip' of the Anger Iceberg represent?
The visible part of anger, like yelling, stomping feet, or raised voices.
What should you do before responding in a heated discussion to avoid escalating anger?
Slow down and think carefully about what you want to say.
What can cause anger, besides external events like a traffic jam?
Internal events, such as worrying or brooding about personal problems.
What is one relaxation technique mentioned to calm angry feelings?
Deep breathing from your diaphragm or using relaxing imagery.
What boy band, formed in the 90s, had hits like 'I Want It That Way' and 'Quit Playing Game (With My Heart)'?
Backstreet Boys.
Name one emotion that might be 'below the surface' of your Anger Iceberg.
Any one from: frustration, hopelessness, disappointment, pain, jealousy, loneliness, or fear.
How can 'silly humor' help when you are angry?
It can help you gain a balanced perspective, like picturing a coworker as a 'dirtbag' covered in dirt to reduce fury.
According to Dr. Deffenbacher, what do easily angered people often have a low tolerance for?
Frustration, inconvenience, or annoyance.
What can happen if suppressed anger is not allowed outward expression?
It can turn inward, potentially causing hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.
What 2000s, reality show, first airing in 2000, strands contestants on and island to compete for a million dollars?
Survivor.
What is one question you can ask to explore your Anger Iceberg when angry?
'How am I acting right now? How does my current display of anger mask another emotion that I feel?' (or any other question).
What should you avoid doing when criticized, to prevent escalating conflict?
Fighting back or getting defensive, instead, listen to the underlying message.
What type of family background might make someone more prone to anger?
A disruptive, chaotic family that is not skilled at emotional communication.
In cognitive restructuring, what should you avoid saying when angry, like 'this machine never works'?
Absolute words like 'never' or 'always'.
What 90s toy, a digital pet in a small egg-shaped device, required you to fee and care for it?
Tamagotchi.
In what situation might the Anger Iceberg reveal disappointment at work?
What is one environmental change to avoid anger, like adjusting your commute?
Finding an alternative route that is less congested or more scenic, or using a bus or train.
What is one way unexpressed anger can manifest, besides passive-aggressive behavior?
A perpetually cynical and hostile personality, such as constantly putting others down.
What myth about anger does the document debunk, saying it escalates anger rather than resolving it?
The myth of 'letting it all hang out' or 'letting it rip'.
What 2004 movie, starring Lindsay Lohan, follows a teen navigating high school cliques after being homeschooled in Africa?
Mean Girls.
When angry at yourself, what might the Anger Iceberg indicate as a deeper emotion?
Emotional pain from past injuries, fear, or shame.
Why should you avoid harsh, sarcastic humor when angry?
It is just another form of unhealthy anger expression and can worsen conflicts rather than resolve them.