Understanding Anger
Name 1 medical problem that can result from long periods of anger.
What is High blood pressure, diabetes, stomach ulcers, intestinal problems.
There are times when people are angry but hold their anger in. They may appear angry and have the physical signs of anger, but they believe or think people do not see it. This is _______ anger.
What is stuffing/repressing
When you ____ your anger, then you can decide on the best way to express it.
What is accept
_____ can improve communication by allowing others to realize how you feel about a certain event or situation and why.
What is assertiveness
"You always mess up our plans"
"You never think of my feelings, just your own."
"You're always late. You take forever to pick me up."
These are examples of:
What is exaggeration
______ energizes people for physical attack just as fear energizes people for running away to safety.
What is anger
Some people believe that if they ignore their angry feelings, they will go away. Trying to _____ dealing with anger can make the anger build, which could result in an explosion.
What is delay
An _______ communication method would consist of being unwilling to compromise, speaking in a loud/overbearing way, interrupting, and disrespect when communicating with others.
What is aggressive
Being assertive means you can make a _____ without being offensive, manipulative, or hurtful.
What is point
"It's your own fault."
"You mess everything up around here."
"You are just too stupid to get it right."
These are examples of:
What is blaming & attacking
Anger is not simply an emotional reaction. Anger has strong biological and _____ components.
What is physical
Sometimes people focus their anger on a safer or less threatening person/situation. An example is someone who is very angry with a boss but shows anger at home toward his or her spouse. What is this called?
What is shifting the anger/displacement.
A _____ communication method would consist of allowing others to take advantage, not expressing one's needs/wants, and a lack of confidence.
What is passive
___ ___ statements are very simple ways of expressing even strong feelings without attacking the other person.
"I feel."
"If that's the best you can do, please don't help me."
"I guess your happy now."
"Boy, you sure did a great job."
These are examples of:
What is sarcasm
Anger can become ________ when it lasts for longer periods due to the physiological changes.
What is dangerous
There are times when people new in recovery feel angry but immediately try to weaken the anger and pretend that it doesn't exist. This is called _____.
What is diluting the anger
Negative expressions of anger make it more likely that the person will not listen to you and it often makes the person it's directed at _____ too.
What is angry
The _____ of expressing anger is to let the other person know how you feel, not to make the other person angry or upset.
What is goal
"No, nothing's wrong."
"I just want to be alone, that's all. It's not you."
"You just go ahead without me. I'll be all right."
These are examples of:
What is withdrawal/pouting
Perspiring skin, slowed digestion, increase in blood sugar, and breathing faster and harder are all ______ signs of anger.
What is physical
Bob & Sally get in an argument at home. Sally has a history of being unfaithful to Bob. Sally has stopped cheating on Bob for the past 6 months and wants to make the relationship work. Bob doesn't say anything but he continues to have resentment over the past infidelity. He begins to get more angry & depressed. He isolates himself and pretends that nothing is wrong. Bob starts taking his unaddressed anger out on Sally and is often snapping at her for no apparent reason. He denies he is angry when Sally asks him about his recent behavior. This is an example of what?
What is repressing anger.
"You make furious when you act irresponsible." Name at least one problem with this statement.
1.) No one makes another person feel emotions.
2.) Uses the word "you" which can make the person feel defensive.
"I get mad when you walk out - you don't care about me." Rephrase this using an "I feel" statement.
"I get frustrated when our conversation is suddenly finished because you walk out.
"You just didn't try hard enough."
"I knew I shouldn't have counted on you."
"If you only tried harder."
These are examples of:
What is projecting guilt