DEFINITIONS
A natural response to those situations where we feel threatened, we believe harm will come to us, or we believe that another person has unnecessarily wronged us.
What is Anger?
Anger is a choice.
False.
Anger is a FEELING we have as a result of our emotion(s). What can be chosen is how you act upon those feelings.
Name 3 primary emotions which can be the cause of our anger.
(What is) Disrespect, embarrassment, shame, regret, sadness, etc.
Your anger "toolbox" which holds all of the anger managements strategies ("tools") which work best for you.
What is an "Anger Control Plan"?
True/False:
Beliefs underlying anger often take the form of "should" and "must."
True
A behavior that is intended to cause harm to another person or damage property. This behavior can include verbal abuse, threats, or violent acts.
What is Aggression?
Physical, Behavioral, Verbal, and Cognitive are the 4 cues to Anger.
False.
Physical, Behavioral, EMOTIONAL, and Cognitive are the 4 cues to anger.
The most common thing one can do when he becomes angry is_____. This gives you time to calm down as you are doing this.
Hint: You can go backwards or you can start from the beginning.
What is "Count to ten"?
A zero on the Anger Meter indicates you are in a total state of _______.
What is "Calm"?
Secondary Emotion or Secondary Response
What is "Anger"?
An attitude that involves disliking others and evaluating them negatively.
What is Hostility?
An ANGER CONTROL PLAN is to try many different strategies and find the anger control techniques that work best for you.
True.
ex: Timeout, Talk to a friend (someone you trust), Conflict Resolution Model, Exercise, Attend 12-step meetings, Explore primary feelings beneath the anger.
The basic message of "My feelings, thoughts, and beliefs are important, and your feelings, thoughts, and beliefs are equally important."
What is Assertiveness?
The "D" in the ABCD Method stands for d______ your belief(s) about the event which caused your anger.
What is "Disputing"?
Anger management strategy which involves leaving a situation that causes the escalation of anger OR putting a stop to the discussion that is provoking it.
What is a "Timeout"?
_______ serve as warning signs that you're angry and that your anger is escalating.
What are Cues?
There are 3 phases where anger leads to aggression.
True.
Buildup, Explosion, and Aftermath
People who are _______ __________ may often feel that others are trying to control them or are on a "power trip."
What is "Passive Agressive"?
The ABCD Model states that it's not the events that cause our anger, but rather our __________ of the events.
What is "Interpretations"?
Our circumstances, age, culture, gender, personality, ______, and past all affect how we respond when angry.
What is "Family"?
As we become angry, we often engage in an internal dialogue, called _____-_____.
What is Self-Talk?
Assertive, Aggressive, Passive, and Passive-Aggressive responses are LEARNED behaviors; they are not innate, unchangeable traits.
True
The basic message of, "Your feelings, thoughts, and beliefs are important, but MY feelings, thoughts, and beliefs are unimportant and inconsequential."
What is "Passivity"?
A second approach to controlling anger. You simply tell yourself through a series of self-commands to stop thinking the thoughts that are making you angry. The goal is to stop your current pattern of angry thoughts before they lead to a escalation of anger and a loss of control. Alternative to the A-B-C-D model.
What is "Thought Stopping"?
The interactions we have had with our parents have strongly influenced our ______, _______, _______ as adults.
What are "Behaviors, Feelings, and Attitudes"?