True or False
True or false: Everyone gets angry.
What is true?
Name a situation where you might find yourself getting angry.
At school, at work, being lied to, not getting your way, someone being disrespectful, etc.
Explain how a person could help you calm down when angry. (What do you need them to do or say?)
Answer varies.
Name a coping skill you could use while in school.
Answers vary. May include: deep breathing, tapping, squeezing fists (or a stress ball), positive self-talk.
Somebody tells you to shut up. You...
True or false: It is bad to be angry.
What is false? It is perfectly okay to be angry! What matters most is how you handle it!
Name three physical signs your body gives you that you are becoming angry.
Answers vary, but may include: making fists, stomping, yelling, ears or face turning red/hot, gritting teeth, tensing muscles, increased heart rate.
True or false: You should always tell someone when you're getting very angry.
What is false? It depends on the situation. In certain circumstances, it may be more appropriate to tell someone (asking for help if you feel like you'll lose your temper) and in others, you may be able to handle the situation on your own (e.g. by taking some deep breaths or walking away).
You are trying to explain what a coping skill is to a friend. What do you say?
A coping skill is a tool you can use to calm yourself when you're angry, sad, frustrated, worried, disappointed, etc...
Your friend lied to you
You can let them know how you felt, ask them why they lied, or talk to someone about how it bothered you.
True or false: It's best to keep anger inside.
What is false? Keeping anger bottled up can cause you to lose control later on. It is better to let the feelings out in an appropriate way.
Name an example of some thoughts you might have when you get angry.
Answers vary, but may include things like, "That's not fair," "He/she started it!", "But I want _____!"
You and someone else are arguing over who gets to sit on the front seat. You are both on L, what do you do?
When do you need to use coping skills?
When dealing with a difficult feeling/emotion.
You let them know you do not appreciate it and would like it if they stopped.
Ex: "Please let me finish..."
True or false: There is only one right way to handle feelings of anger.
What is false? There are multiple ways. Bonus points if you can name two appropriate ways!
Tell how you know you are getting to your boiling point (about to lose control of your temper).
Answers vary on an individual basis. Extreme cussing, making physical movements, "seeing red", throwing caution out the window, etc
Staff tells you "no" to a request you've made and you feel yourself becoming frustrated, then angry. What would be an appropriate way to handle this?
Answers vary; options include communicating that you are becoming upset and need space, using a coping skill, or asking for help from a different staff (clinical, or residential)
Explain how you can use "Stop, think, and act/go" to help your anger.
First, stop before you do anything that you might regret or that will get you in trouble. Second, think about what your options are and what their consequences are. Consider this before you move on to act or go where you will make a good choice.
At first you think your friends are just horsing around, but you get hurt and realize it's serious
You can let them know they crossed a line and let them know what that line is so it doesn't happen again
True or false: We learn how to handle anger from those around us.
What is true? We often observe and absorb others' reactions (e.g. our parents' anger reactions and control styles).
What signs clue you in that someone around you is becoming angry?
Answers vary but may include: shutting down, getting quiet, raising their voice, speaking with clenched teeth, using a short/angry tone, impatiently foot tapping.
You get put on privilege freeze for not attending school. You don't think it's fair because you ALWAYS go to school and don't think you should be consequenced for one day. What do you do?
Accept the consequences for now - arguing may cause you to escalate and then lose more privileges. Write a grievance, talk to your therapist, use your coping skills.
Explain what an I-statement is and provide an example.
I felt hurt when you canceled our playdate to hang out with someone else. Can you please find a time for us to spend time together soon?
I felt___________ when ______________. So please, ____________________.
You lost your phone
-Ask if anyone's seen it
-talk to staff
-retrace steps
- do not assume someone took it