Understanding Anger
What is the purpose of anger?
It is a signal that something feels wrong, unfair, or threatening.
Name one physical warning sign of anger.
Tight muscles, fast heartbeat, sweating, etc.
Anger is often a secondary emotion. Name one primary emotion
Fear, hurt, sadness, shame, etc.
What does the “B” stand for in ABCD?
Beliefs (thoughts).
Healthiest communication style?
Assertive.
True or False — anger itself is bad.
False.
What does a high number on the anger thermometer mean?
Irritability, frustration, hurt, anxiety.
How can unmanaged anger affect recovery?
Increased stress and relapse risk.
Give an example of emotional reasoning.
“I feel it, so it must be true.”
Passive vs aggressive — difference?
Passive avoids needs; aggressive ignores others’ needs.
When does anger become a problem?
When it harms self/others or leads to unsafe choices.
Name one emotional cue that anger is building.
Irritability, frustration, hurt, anxiety.
Name one coping skill that protects sobriety.
Call support, breathe, meeting, pause, etc.
What is thought stopping?
Interrupting escalating thoughts.
What is an I-statement?
I feel… when… I need…
What is the first step in managing anger?
Recognizing early signs and pausing.
Why notice cues early?
So coping skills can be used before escalation.
What boundary helps protect recovery?
Timeout, stepping away, no yelling, etc.
What is fortune telling thinking?
Predicting negative outcomes.
Give an assertive statement example.
Any respectful boundary statement.
Name one healthy use of anger.
Setting boundaries or motivating change.
Give 3 warning signs you notice in yourself.
Any appropriate examples.
Why is slowing down helpful during conflict?
Reduces reactivity and improves choices.
Replace: “They ALWAYS do this.”
Balanced thought example.
Why do I-statements reduce conflict?
Less blame and defensiveness