True or False
True or false: Everyone gets angry.
What is true?
Name a situation where you might find yourself getting angry.
Variable answers.
Explain how a person could help you calm down when angry. (What do you need them to do or say?)
Answer varies.
Name a coping skill you could use while in school.
Answers vary. May include: deep breathing, tapping, squeezing fists (or a stressball if they are allowed), positive self-talk.
Tell about a time you were angry and how you handled it.
Answers vary.
True or false: It is bad to be angry.
What is false? It is perfectly okay to be angry! What matters most is how you handle it!
Name three physical signs your body gives you that you are becoming angry.
Answers vary, but may include: making fists, stomping, yelling, ears or face turning red/hot, gritting teeth, tensing muscles, increased heart rate.
True or false: You should always tell someone when you're getting very angry.
What is false? It depends on the situation. In certain circumstances, it may be more appropriate to tell someone (asking for help if you feel like you'll lose your temper) and in others, you may be able to handle the situation on your own (e.g. by taking some deep breaths or walking away).
You are trying to explain what a coping skill is to a friend. What do you say?
A coping skill is a tool you can use to calm yourself when you're angry, sad, frustrated, worried, disappointed, etc...
When I get mad, my anger looks like my <person> because <reason>.
(Identify a person whose anger is similar to yours and why).
Ex. My anger looks like my mom's because we both yell and then shut down and get very quiet.
Answers vary.
True or false: It's best to keep anger inside.
What is false? Keeping anger bottled up can cause you to lose control later on. It is better to let the feelings out in an appropriate way.
Name an example of some thoughts you might have when you get angry.
Answers vary, but may include things like, "That's not fair," "He/she started it!", "But I want _____!"
You and someone else are arguing over what game to play during recess. What is a possible solution to the scenario?
There are several. They may include: compromising by choosing to play a different game entirely; taking turns playing one game first, then the other; finding someone else to play with
When do you need to use coping skills?
To get back to calm when dealing with a difficult feeling/emotion.
One thing I'd like to change about how I deal with my anger is _________________________.
Answers vary.
True or false: There is only one right way to handle feelings of anger.
What is false? There are multiple ways. Bonus points if you can name two appropriate ways!
Tell how you know you are getting to your boiling point (about to lose control of your temper).
Answers vary on an individual basis. Award points accordingly.
Your teacher tells you "no" to a request you've made and you feel yourself becoming frustrated, then angry. What would be an appropriate way to handle this?
Answers vary; options include asking the teacher for help with your anger, using a coping skill. No matter what you do, however, you should respectfully answer your teacher.
Explain how you can use "Stop, think, and act/go" to help your anger.
First, stop before you do anything that you might regret or that will get you in trouble. Second, think about what your options are and what their consequences are. Consider this before you move on to act or go where you will make a good choice.
Anger is often a secondary emotion. Identify three examples of feelings that come first.
Answers vary but may include: disappointment, sadness, anxiety, betrayal, rejection, worry, overwhelmed.
True or false: We learn how to handle anger from those around us.
What is true? We often observe and absorb others' reactions (e.g. our parents' anger reactions and control styles).
What signs clue you in that someone around you is becoming angry?
Answers vary but may include: shutting down, getting quiet, raising their voice, speaking with clenched teeth, using a short/angry tone, impatiently foot tapping.
Your parent removes one of your favorite privileges (going out, video games, etc.) and you get mad because you don't think it's fair. How could you handle your anger appropriately?
Accept the consequences- arguing back may cause you to lose more privileges! Use a coping skill to calm yourself.
Explain what an I-statement is and provide an example.
I felt hurt when you canceled our playdate to hang out with someone else. Can you please find a time for us to spend time together soon?
I felt___________ when ______________. So please, ____________________.
Explain at least 2 life consequences of poor anger control. Bonus points for explaining 3.
-People may not want to be around you
-Legal issues could be possible
-Getting fired, kicked out of class, getting detentions or suspensions
-Getting into a physical fight
More answers are acceptable.