Vocabulary
What does disagreement mean?
lack of consensus or approval
having opposing points of view
List three ways to calm down while being angry
Deep breathing
Taking 5 minutes of space
Talking to a therapist or a trusted friend/adult without spreading gossip
How can an argument make you feel?
- angry
- resentful
- upset
- sad
- scared
- etc
Give an example of how to show someone respect
- listen to them
- show interest
- be kind
- be polite
- be thankful and appreciative
- etc
Your body may react to a conflict by increasing your ____ _____
heart rate
What does conflict mean?
a serious disagreement or argument
a condition in which a person experiences a clash of opposing wishes or needs
Why is it important to apologize when you hurt somebody's feelings?
It shows respect, it repairs the relationship, you'll both feel better, etc
Does shouting help you in an argument?
No! In fact, it can make you appear aggressive and unintelligent.
TRUE OR FALSE:
Telling someone to "move it" is a way of showing respect
FALSE! Instead, simply say "excuse me" and smile
TRUE OR FALSE:
It is possible for people to have anger issue that last most of their life
TRUE: it can be a real problem that affects people in many ways
What does neutrality mean?
the state of not supporting or helping either side in a conflict or disagreement
What are the consequences of not handling your anger properly at work?
- get spoken to by the Human Resources department/boss
- get reprimanded by the Human Resources department/boss
- get fired
- police involvement
- anger issues could end up on your work record which could make getting hired very difficult
Why doesn't talking over someone help an argument?
- it's rude
- it shows a lack of respect
- it could imply that you are trying to be more powerful or dominant
TRUE OR FALSE:
Yelling, "I'm not doing that" when your supervisor politely asks you to perform a job-related task is an example of showing respect.
FALSE! If your supervisor asks you to do a job-related task, you should do it.
TRUE OR FALSE:
Being under pressure is an example of anger
False: pressure can certainly feel terrible but it's not the same as being angry. You must learn how to deal with both in healthy ways
What does negotiation mean?
discussion aimed at reaching an agreement
What are the consequences of not handling your anger properly home?
- you could lose friendships/relationships
- police involvement
- you may have to go to court
- you may need counseling
- jail
List ways to properly end an argument
- Agree to disagree
- Work toward a compromise
- Talk about how the other person's actions make you feel
Is spreading rumors or gossip a way to show respect?
No, not at all. Spreading rumors and gossip is mean, unprofessional, will make you lose friends, and could even get you fired or in trouble with the law.
TRUE OR FALSE:
All people experience anger from time to time
True! It's okay to experience anger from time to time, but it's important to deal with it in a healthy way.
Refusing tasks, yelling, breaking things, running away, hiding, and withdrawing are NOT healthy or socially acceptable.
What is mediation?
intervention in a dispute in order to resolve it; arbitration
What are the consequences of not handling anger in public?
- you could lose friendships/relationships
- public embarrassment
- could end up on YouTube/social media
- police involvement
- you may have to go to court
- you may need counseling
- jail
Who wins an argument?
Nobody! Try to see the other persons' point of view and move forward
What is the Golden Rule?
Treat people the way you want to be treated
Who can prevent you from being angry or arguing?
You and only you. You have to make the choice to move forward or get stuck.