Basic definitions I
Something that makes you angry.
What is a trigger?
The B in the ABC's of behavior.
What is behavior?
_________ emotions make them easier to handle.
What is describing?
The first step of problem-solving training.
What is the problem definition/"What's the hassle?"
Stating the facts about a situation without being judgmental/a jerk.
What is the D(escribe) in DEAR MAN?
Something you can see or hear.
What is overt?
The C in the ABC's of behavior.
What are consequences?
What are beliefs/interpretations of emotions?
The step in problem-solving training that involves providing oneself feedback on how a situation was handled.
What is the self-evaluation step?
Keeping your attention on your goals during an interaction. Don't get sidetracked.
What is the M(indful) in DEAR MAN?
Something you can't see or hear.
What is covert?
The A in the ABC's of behavior.
What are antecedents?
These are acronyms that outline skills that can be used in interactions with others to get your needs met.
What are DEAR MAN and GIVE?
The step in problem-solving training that evaluates potential consequences for different options/behaviors.
What is "What is my penalty/consequence?"
Communicating your thoughts, feelings, and opinions about a situation. Don't assume people can read your mind.
What is the E(xpress) in DEAR MAN?
What are (body) cues?
An example of this is believing, "he bumped into me because he hates me."
What is an aggressive belief/thought?
Something you say to yourself to stop you from acting out of anger. An example of this is If-then thinking.
What is a reminder?
The second step of the problem-solving training.
What is "What are my options?"
Avoiding the words "you should," being polite and nice when asking for something.
What is the G(entle) in GIVE?
A word that means thinking.
An example of this is, "he bumped into me probably by accident."
What is a non-aggressive belief/thought?
This is thinking of the consequences of a behavior before doing it.
What is thinking ahead?
The key components in the sequence of using reminders.
What are 1) stop, 2) press the pause button, 3) kickback, and 4) remind?
Communicating that you recognize the other person's position, feelings, or difference of opinion.
What is the V(alidate) in GIVE?